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Mural Cover-Up Behind Blue Lucy

This is the kind of story that should have had a DNR (do not resuscitate) order on it, but it is being kept alive via artificial means. It has turned out to be the single most corrosive and divisive event in the Saint Petersburg art scene in years. Ten days later, things have quieted on the surface, there are strong emotions, and hard words continue to be hurled on Facebook and in cafes, bars and back alleys, which is why I am writing about it now.



On April 14th, Sebastian Coolidge, renowned Saint Pete muralist, painted a mural on the wall behind Blue Lucy gallery, on the West side. The mural was a similar, supersized but far from identical version of a painting (on left) that had already stirred controversy at the Holocaust Museum, from which it was banned. To the Holocaust Museum's credit, "Depth's Desire" was replaced with another Coolidge painting that featured the silhouette of a breast, but on a female body.

It seems that the offending thing there was the (literal) description of an objectified female torso in the chest of a man.

The figure in the mural was that of an older, heavier-set man, using a nearly identical trope to this one.



 Since bare breasts are apparently forbidden by a city ordinance, the artist narrowly, if at all, skirted the issue by leaving the cut-out in white, and projecting a bare-breasted woman onto it.

On that night, Sebastian Coolidge and Chad Mize of Blue Lucy openly talked about the idea of painting in the breasts, and both commented on how they would be covered up. This is exactly what Sebastian did, and the outcome was just as he and Chad predicted: Gary Burnside, the 600 block property manager painted over the breasts and Sebastian's signature (which, although well within his rights, would later curry much animosity from the arts community).

Many artists expressed well-meaning sympathy in solidarity for Sebastian and displeasure with the cover-up. Some aimed at the City, some at Burnside, and some at people who weren't even there. That morning, Burnside called police about the possibility of a hate crime being committed. The reason for this was that the wall on which Coolidge was granted permission by Burnside to paint was on the exterior of a store owned by a Muslim merchant. The police expressed doubt as to whether there was a hate crime charge in the case. Predictably, this aroused further indignation from the local arts community. There is no denying that Sebastian's popularity played a part in all this.

Sebastian then went back and painted on the figure something to the tune that "Sometimes when you lose, you actually win", claiming the high moral ground. The venom flowed freely from then to this day. Chad told someone (to whom he later apologized) to their face they had been blacklisted from Blue Lucy. Wait...blacklists in the 2013 arts scene in St Pete? Really?

Also on Facebook, Gary Burnside, for granting generous permission to Chad and Sebastian to do the mural, being betrayed with the boobs, and forced to cover it up, was rewarded in Facebook by people other than Sebastian and Chad with physical threats, including lynching and being shot.

In private conversations (which remain private and off the record) animosity flooded the community.

I offered to meet with one of the principals in all this, but so far he has not replied after saying he would. The other told me publicly to "shut up".  This tapped the rock, causing a gush of gossip and zero meaningful dialogue. One wonders how other owners of walls will react the next time they are asked to donate space. A repeat of this debacle remains a very real possibility.

Ironically -- and sadly -- the antics surrounding the mural have totally eclipsed the Blue Lucy show it was meant to highlight, which is unfair to the artists in it.

Then there is the City. Breasts are forbidden to be painted on walls in desolated alleys, yet are perfectly OK in three dimensions on life-sized statues in a park bordering on Beach Drive, where tourists and children, for G-d's sakes, play every day.

How does a community recover from a thing like this? Not by burying it, as many would prefer, having gotten their insults in followed by facile apologies, mistrusting each other, continuing to hurl insults on FB (still going on as this is being written), or letting time turn it into a crusty brown smear, but by remembering who we are, how important every one of us is to the community, and chilling, forgiving, and reaching out to each other. Meaningful dialogue may be too much to hope for...

--- Luis

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This is the kind of story that should have had a DNR (do not resuscitate) order on it, but it is being kept alive via artificial means. It has turned out to be the single most corrosive and divisive event in the Saint Petersburg art scene in years. Ten days later, things have quieted on the surface, there are strong emotions, and hard words continue to be hurled on Facebook and in cafes, bars and back alleys, which is why I am writing about it now.



On April 14th, Sebastian Coolidge, renowned Saint Pete muralist, painted a mural on the wall behind Blue Lucy gallery, on the West side. The mural was a similar, supersized but far from identical version of a painting (on left) that had already stirred controversy at the Holocaust Museum, from which it was banned. To the Holocaust Museum's credit, "Depth's Desire" was replaced with another Coolidge painting that featured the silhouette of a breast, but on a female body.

It seems that the offending thing there was the (literal) description of an objectified female torso in the chest of a man.

The figure in the mural was that of an older, heavier-set man, using a nearly identical trope to this one.



 Since bare breasts are apparently forbidden by a city ordinance, the artist narrowly, if at all, skirted the issue by leaving the cut-out in white, and projecting a bare-breasted woman onto it.

On that night, Sebastian Coolidge and Chad Mize of Blue Lucy openly talked about the idea of painting in the breasts, and both commented on how they would be covered up. This is exactly what Sebastian did, and the outcome was just as he and Chad predicted: Gary Burnside, the 600 block property manager painted over the breasts and Sebastian's signature (which, although well within his rights, would later curry much animosity from the arts community).

Many artists expressed well-meaning sympathy in solidarity for Sebastian and displeasure with the cover-up. Some aimed at the City, some at Burnside, and some at people who weren't even there. That morning, Burnside called police about the possibility of a hate crime being committed. The reason for this was that the wall on which Coolidge was granted permission by Burnside to paint was on the exterior of a store owned by a Muslim merchant. The police expressed doubt as to whether there was a hate crime charge in the case. Predictably, this aroused further indignation from the local arts community. There is no denying that Sebastian's popularity played a part in all this.

Sebastian then went back and painted on the figure something to the tune that "Sometimes when you lose, you actually win", claiming the high moral ground. The venom flowed freely from then to this day. Chad told someone (to whom he later apologized) to their face they had been blacklisted from Blue Lucy. Wait...blacklists in the 2013 arts scene in St Pete? Really?

Also on Facebook, Gary Burnside, for granting generous permission to Chad and Sebastian to do the mural, being betrayed with the boobs, and forced to cover it up, was rewarded in Facebook by people other than Sebastian and Chad with physical threats, including lynching and being shot.

In private conversations (which remain private and off the record) animosity flooded the community.

I offered to meet with one of the principals in all this, but so far he has not replied after saying he would. The other told me publicly to "shut up".  This tapped the rock, causing a gush of gossip and zero meaningful dialogue. One wonders how other owners of walls will react the next time they are asked to donate space. A repeat of this debacle remains a very real possibility.

Ironically -- and sadly -- the antics surrounding the mural have totally eclipsed the Blue Lucy show it was meant to highlight, which is unfair to the artists in it.

Then there is the City. Breasts are forbidden to be painted on walls in desolated alleys, yet are perfectly OK in three dimensions on life-sized statues in a park bordering on Beach Drive, where tourists and children, for G-d's sakes, play every day.

How does a community recover from a thing like this? Not by burying it, as many would prefer, having gotten their insults in followed by facile apologies, mistrusting each other, continuing to hurl insults on FB (still going on as this is being written), or letting time turn it into a crusty brown smear, but by remembering who we are, how important every one of us is to the community, and chilling, forgiving, and reaching out to each other. Meaningful dialogue may be too much to hope for...

--- Luis

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This Big Wedding Weekend, April 26th-28th.

Things are returning to abnormal after last weekend...


Happy 60th Ribbon Cutting/Birthday @ Nuance Gallery - Join us to help Rob celebrate the BIG 60!!! The St Pete Chamber will be here for a ribbon cutting. Cake by Icing on the Cake, food by CA Cafe, live jazz with Henry Ashwood, art work by 17 Florida artists. All at Nuance St. Pete, 2924 Central Ave., St. Pete. Friday, April 26th, 5:00 PM-8:00 PM.

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Do you like computers and computer related things? So do we! But wait, there's more! As the culmination of our senior semester in the USFSP Graphic Design Program, the class of 2013 is proud to present our tireless hours of thesis work for your eyes to enjoy. And it's not just computers! 
We do other things too! Music, 3D printing, Letterpress, cloning and anything else your bright little mind can imagine.

Connectivity vs. Interactivity is the theme from which we drew our concepts, inspiration and weirdo ideas.

Also, there will be a potluck. Come for the food, and hopefully stay for the design.


Saint Petersburg, Florida
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Hot and Bothered @ Tempus  Projects- Themed around intimacy and everyday life. Adult Material will be shown. One night only. Friday, April 26th, 6-9 PM. Free. 5132 N. Florida Ave.


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At the Venture Compound....

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Things are returning to abnormal after last weekend...


Happy 60th Ribbon Cutting/Birthday @ Nuance Gallery - Join us to help Rob celebrate the BIG 60!!! The St Pete Chamber will be here for a ribbon cutting. Cake by Icing on the Cake, food by CA Cafe, live jazz with Henry Ashwood, art work by 17 Florida artists. All at Nuance St. Pete, 2924 Central Ave., St. Pete. Friday, April 26th, 5:00 PM-8:00 PM.

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Do you like computers and computer related things? So do we! But wait, there's more! As the culmination of our senior semester in the USFSP Graphic Design Program, the class of 2013 is proud to present our tireless hours of thesis work for your eyes to enjoy. And it's not just computers! 
We do other things too! Music, 3D printing, Letterpress, cloning and anything else your bright little mind can imagine.

Connectivity vs. Interactivity is the theme from which we drew our concepts, inspiration and weirdo ideas.

Also, there will be a potluck. Come for the food, and hopefully stay for the design.


Saint Petersburg, Florida
_________________________________________________________________________
Hot and Bothered @ Tempus  Projects- Themed around intimacy and everyday life. Adult Material will be shown. One night only. Friday, April 26th, 6-9 PM. Free. 5132 N. Florida Ave.


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At the Venture Compound....

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5 Actions That Result in Success By Mason Gruenberg

Perhaps you have thought of how much believing in yourself makes a difference in your quality of life? A strong belief in yourself can bring you all these benefits plus much more:

* You recognize your capacity to achieve goals.
* You are optimistic concerning the future as you set objectives and accomplish them.
* Deep down inside, you know you are able to do anything.
* You treat yourself kindly.
* You are feeling uplifted and more satisfied with life.
* You're motivated to get things done.
* You have got faith, no matter what.
* You see and revel in the abundance around you.
* Others feel drawn to you.

Wouldn't you like to enjoy these qualities of confidence and well-being every day? The good news is you can! You'll find actions you can take to build up your belief in yourself.

Whether you feel lacking with this area or just want to strengthen your belief for the extra benefits, try these thoughts to further develop your belief:

1. Think about in your own abilities to get something finished. Be your own best cheerleader and encourage yourself to get your tasks completed. Figure out how to divide huge tasks down into attainable parts . After that, even when times are tough and your courage is low, you will know that can be done it.

2. Make dreams. Whether it is getting the career you desire, obtaining additional training, meeting someone you admire, traveling to a distant place, or setting a goal to save a million dollars, connect with your dreams.

* Where you come from, the money you are making, and the folks you hang out with are insignificant to the dreams you create. Dreams are often focused on what you would like for yourself in the future. When you believe on your dreams, you may also believe in you!

3. Establish goals and go for the gold. Believing in yourself means you're motivated for getting things done. Get into the custom of setting targets (both short-term and long-term). After that, you can take active steps to accomplish them.

4. Treat yourself well. Treating yourself with a nurturing character and the knowledge that you're a deserving human being is a crucial aspect of developing belief in yourself.

* Pamper yourself whenever you want it. Recognize that others ought to treat you with respect and love.

5. Ensure motivation is high. Remember the childhood legend concerning the little engine that could? When you want to achieve your responsibilities with distinction and achieve your goals, it's an unbelievable witness to your degree of motivation. Build momentum to fuel your motivation.

6. Over the tough times, keep the faith. Nobody is immune from experiencing rocky chapters in his life. But when you believe in yourself, you can meet those challenging phases with a positive, solid fortitude. You will push ahead, go through the trying moments and know you'll come out on the other side smarter, stronger and surer of yourself.

7. Recognize the bounty you possess. No matter what period of life you're living, look for the good all around you. Get the most you can from every moment.

* Is the chair you are sitting on comfortable? Do you think you're secure and warm now?
* Whatever you love in your life, be grateful. Hold gratitude.

Believing in yourself is probably the most powerful choices you can make. Practice these techniques and you will discover the sheer delight and luxury of knowing you can do whatever it is you select when you believe in yourself.

Perhaps you have thought of how much believing in yourself makes a difference in your quality of life? A strong belief in yourself can bring you all these benefits plus much more:

* You recognize your capacity to achieve goals.
* You are optimistic concerning the future as you set objectives and accomplish them.
* Deep down inside, you know you are able to do anything.
* You treat yourself kindly.
* You are feeling uplifted and more satisfied with life.
* You're motivated to get things done.
* You have got faith, no matter what.
* You see and revel in the abundance around you.
* Others feel drawn to you.

Wouldn't you like to enjoy these qualities of confidence and well-being every day? The good news is you can! You'll find actions you can take to build up your belief in yourself.

Whether you feel lacking with this area or just want to strengthen your belief for the extra benefits, try these thoughts to further develop your belief:

1. Think about in your own abilities to get something finished. Be your own best cheerleader and encourage yourself to get your tasks completed. Figure out how to divide huge tasks down into attainable parts . After that, even when times are tough and your courage is low, you will know that can be done it.

2. Make dreams. Whether it is getting the career you desire, obtaining additional training, meeting someone you admire, traveling to a distant place, or setting a goal to save a million dollars, connect with your dreams.

* Where you come from, the money you are making, and the folks you hang out with are insignificant to the dreams you create. Dreams are often focused on what you would like for yourself in the future. When you believe on your dreams, you may also believe in you!

3. Establish goals and go for the gold. Believing in yourself means you're motivated for getting things done. Get into the custom of setting targets (both short-term and long-term). After that, you can take active steps to accomplish them.

4. Treat yourself well. Treating yourself with a nurturing character and the knowledge that you're a deserving human being is a crucial aspect of developing belief in yourself.

* Pamper yourself whenever you want it. Recognize that others ought to treat you with respect and love.

5. Ensure motivation is high. Remember the childhood legend concerning the little engine that could? When you want to achieve your responsibilities with distinction and achieve your goals, it's an unbelievable witness to your degree of motivation. Build momentum to fuel your motivation.

6. Over the tough times, keep the faith. Nobody is immune from experiencing rocky chapters in his life. But when you believe in yourself, you can meet those challenging phases with a positive, solid fortitude. You will push ahead, go through the trying moments and know you'll come out on the other side smarter, stronger and surer of yourself.

7. Recognize the bounty you possess. No matter what period of life you're living, look for the good all around you. Get the most you can from every moment.

* Is the chair you are sitting on comfortable? Do you think you're secure and warm now?
* Whatever you love in your life, be grateful. Hold gratitude.

Believing in yourself is probably the most powerful choices you can make. Practice these techniques and you will discover the sheer delight and luxury of knowing you can do whatever it is you select when you believe in yourself.

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Why You Need to Have a Success Coach Like Marshall Sylver By Jane Mountrose

People typically think that building wealth like millionaire success coach Marshall Sylver is beyond reach. You may not be able to fathom it happening, because the idea is beyond anything you have ever seen. You might not ever have met even one millionaire.

This demonstrates the key point in finding a mentor and getting some success training. Most of us weren't taught to be free thinkers, to seek to expand our sense of what is possible for us and to grow in previously unimaginable ways. Instead, most of us have learned to remain within certain limits, to seek some kind of regular employment and settle for an ordinary existence.

Qualified success trainers and mentors offer much, much more. They mentor people to move toward wealth and freedom. The question for you, then, becomes "Do you really want to settle for less?" What if you are determined to break free from your ordinary life and create a life that's remarkable? For this to occur, you have to move into new terrain.

You probably realize from experience that it's unwise to head out into unknown territory with no roadmap. If you long to become very effective and wealthy, it's also foolish to head out into the unknown without a guide. A millionaire success coach can guide you into glorious places you never even dreamed about because you've never gone there before. You may not even have a friend or relative who has been there.

Fatal False Impressions About Being a Millionaire Success Story

To become wealthy and successful, just about everyone has to cope with these kinds of thoughts.

1. It's not possible for you. To this, Marshall Sylver responds that becoming a millionaire is not hard, it's just different.

2. There isn't enough time. Those who already work longer than they want to work think they can't possibly work hard enough to earn a seven-figure income. To develop the idea that it's not difficult, but it's different, {you first need to change your approach. Instead of thinking in terms of exchanging time for dollars, rich people exchange value for dollars. By providing high value, you can generate a much larger income in much less time.

3. You aren't good enough. If you believe that millionaires are more intelligent, have to have a degree, or have to be born in better families, think again. The truth is that people with less intelligence, less education, and less social prominence have as much of a chance to become millionaires as anyone else. The key is in your thinking. If you believe you can, you can.

The Amazing Value of Success Mentoring and Training

The overriding truth is that we live in a favorable universe. If you are seeking a greater life, then it is possible. You are connected with an infinite intelligence whose goal is to help you to have everything you require to live fully even more than you do. A millionaire success coach can help you to shift your thinking about who you are, your true intelligence, and what you can do.

It's normal to want to have more, live more, and become more. You were born to live abundantly and to grow. It might be that some unsuccessful and not too prosperous people around you say that it's ridiculous to imagine that you can break free of your present situation. But do they actually know? If you want to hear the real story, you have to listen to a millionaire success coach like Marshall Sylver. Connect with a person who has the experience to help you to do what you hope to do.

People typically think that building wealth like millionaire success coach Marshall Sylver is beyond reach. You may not be able to fathom it happening, because the idea is beyond anything you have ever seen. You might not ever have met even one millionaire.

This demonstrates the key point in finding a mentor and getting some success training. Most of us weren't taught to be free thinkers, to seek to expand our sense of what is possible for us and to grow in previously unimaginable ways. Instead, most of us have learned to remain within certain limits, to seek some kind of regular employment and settle for an ordinary existence.

Qualified success trainers and mentors offer much, much more. They mentor people to move toward wealth and freedom. The question for you, then, becomes "Do you really want to settle for less?" What if you are determined to break free from your ordinary life and create a life that's remarkable? For this to occur, you have to move into new terrain.

You probably realize from experience that it's unwise to head out into unknown territory with no roadmap. If you long to become very effective and wealthy, it's also foolish to head out into the unknown without a guide. A millionaire success coach can guide you into glorious places you never even dreamed about because you've never gone there before. You may not even have a friend or relative who has been there.

Fatal False Impressions About Being a Millionaire Success Story

To become wealthy and successful, just about everyone has to cope with these kinds of thoughts.

1. It's not possible for you. To this, Marshall Sylver responds that becoming a millionaire is not hard, it's just different.

2. There isn't enough time. Those who already work longer than they want to work think they can't possibly work hard enough to earn a seven-figure income. To develop the idea that it's not difficult, but it's different, {you first need to change your approach. Instead of thinking in terms of exchanging time for dollars, rich people exchange value for dollars. By providing high value, you can generate a much larger income in much less time.

3. You aren't good enough. If you believe that millionaires are more intelligent, have to have a degree, or have to be born in better families, think again. The truth is that people with less intelligence, less education, and less social prominence have as much of a chance to become millionaires as anyone else. The key is in your thinking. If you believe you can, you can.

The Amazing Value of Success Mentoring and Training

The overriding truth is that we live in a favorable universe. If you are seeking a greater life, then it is possible. You are connected with an infinite intelligence whose goal is to help you to have everything you require to live fully even more than you do. A millionaire success coach can help you to shift your thinking about who you are, your true intelligence, and what you can do.

It's normal to want to have more, live more, and become more. You were born to live abundantly and to grow. It might be that some unsuccessful and not too prosperous people around you say that it's ridiculous to imagine that you can break free of your present situation. But do they actually know? If you want to hear the real story, you have to listen to a millionaire success coach like Marshall Sylver. Connect with a person who has the experience to help you to do what you hope to do.

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Compound Eye, the Photo Show @ Venture Compound.

It has been a year since the Venture Compound came into being. During that time it has evolved rapidly through various incarnations, but its commitment to music and art has only grown. Their photo show, Compound Eye, showcased the work of photographers who are friends and habitues of the Venture Compund, like Jonathan Sugarman, Jesse Vance, Jim Ginaker, Ben Barrett, Wayne S. Williams, Savannah Austin, Daniel J. Reyes, and Grethen Goetzman.



 The VC is a challenging location for any photographer, with mixed light sources, wildly varying exposures, etc. On the left, we see photographer Jim Ginaker making the best of it in this close-up of Jesse Thelonious Vance. Note the arc of lights on the left, how they have Jesse's face at their center,, highlighting his intensity.








Wayne S. Williams is a poet of the spoken word -- and the camera. In this picture he used a multiple exposure technique the old-fashioned way: In camera, not through PS. This is pinball-wizardry of the first magnitude, implying movement, with dynamic formal elements as well. The multiple figure and ovoids of the drum heads and cymbals are beautifully done.










Jesse Vance presented this tiled group of 4x6 prints of several concerts. This group has real historical as well as artistic value. I want to see them labeled and tipped into a book.











Jonathan Sugarman, who does VC Photo classes is very passionate about his work. He had several images of towns and cities, mostly in the Western US, mostly long views with subtle colors, planar, layered looks, like this one, and on the graphic side.






Congratulations to all the photographers, Jesse and Brad for a good show.

--- Luis









It has been a year since the Venture Compound came into being. During that time it has evolved rapidly through various incarnations, but its commitment to music and art has only grown. Their photo show, Compound Eye, showcased the work of photographers who are friends and habitues of the Venture Compund, like Jonathan Sugarman, Jesse Vance, Jim Ginaker, Ben Barrett, Wayne S. Williams, Savannah Austin, Daniel J. Reyes, and Grethen Goetzman.



 The VC is a challenging location for any photographer, with mixed light sources, wildly varying exposures, etc. On the left, we see photographer Jim Ginaker making the best of it in this close-up of Jesse Thelonious Vance. Note the arc of lights on the left, how they have Jesse's face at their center,, highlighting his intensity.








Wayne S. Williams is a poet of the spoken word -- and the camera. In this picture he used a multiple exposure technique the old-fashioned way: In camera, not through PS. This is pinball-wizardry of the first magnitude, implying movement, with dynamic formal elements as well. The multiple figure and ovoids of the drum heads and cymbals are beautifully done.










Jesse Vance presented this tiled group of 4x6 prints of several concerts. This group has real historical as well as artistic value. I want to see them labeled and tipped into a book.











Jonathan Sugarman, who does VC Photo classes is very passionate about his work. He had several images of towns and cities, mostly in the Western US, mostly long views with subtle colors, planar, layered looks, like this one, and on the graphic side.






Congratulations to all the photographers, Jesse and Brad for a good show.

--- Luis









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Creative Pinellas' FEAST @ Safety Harbor.

Join Creative Pinellas at the Safety Harbor Museum and Cultural Center for an interactive microfunding experience

May 9, 2013 // 6:30PM // $20
Safety Harbor Museum and Cultural Center (329 S Bayshore Blvd)

Enjoy a taste of the best restaurants in Safety Harbor while supporting ambitious and exciting arts projects! All FEAST proceeds directly benefit Safety Harbor-based arts projects, and your ticket comes with a ballot allowing you to vote on how we distribute money raised that evening. Listen to pitches from some of the area’s most interesting artists while you dine, and then vote on your favorites. Great food and cash for the arts – FEAST will be a fantastic night!
Cocktails start at 6:30 p.m., artist presentations begin at 7 p.m.


Join Creative Pinellas at the Safety Harbor Museum and Cultural Center for an interactive microfunding experience

May 9, 2013 // 6:30PM // $20
Safety Harbor Museum and Cultural Center (329 S Bayshore Blvd)

Enjoy a taste of the best restaurants in Safety Harbor while supporting ambitious and exciting arts projects! All FEAST proceeds directly benefit Safety Harbor-based arts projects, and your ticket comes with a ballot allowing you to vote on how we distribute money raised that evening. Listen to pitches from some of the area’s most interesting artists while you dine, and then vote on your favorites. Great food and cash for the arts – FEAST will be a fantastic night!
Cocktails start at 6:30 p.m., artist presentations begin at 7 p.m.


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Reading Body Language Gestures By Paul Harrison

Those wanting to learn to read body language would do well to consider how much they already, innately, know about body language. Take a gander at this list of the most common body language gestures and you?ll find that you know more about body language than you thought.

The Most Common Body Language Gestures Leaning Forward: Let?s start with an extremely simple body language gesture. Leaning forwards is the universal sign of interest. If you?re talking to someone and they lean forward, you know they?re listening to you.

Leg over Chair Arm: A person witting with their leg over a chair arm is showing indifference. When talking to someone, if they do this it means they?re not interested.

Head Shake: Of course, you already know that shaking your head means "no." But did you know that if you speak while shaking your head, your listener is more likely to disagree with you (that?s right; you shake your head, they disagree).

Nodding your Head: Nodding your head is a sign of agreement, but more than this, if while you are the one talking you nod your head, your listener is more likely to agree with you. Weird.

Holding Hands Behind Head: A person holding their hands interlocked behind their head is showing that they feel superior. It?s a classic sign of arrogance. Don?t do this, it will make people dislike you.

Chair Straddling: When people straddle chairs they are showing aggression. They use the front of the chair to protect their own body while they try to dominate a conversation. This definitely is not good social etiquette!

Legs Spread: When a guy stands with his legs spread he is deliberately showing strength and dominance. This is a classic body language gesture used by alleged "alpha males."

Sucking a Pen: Sucking a pen can only mean one thing; insecurity.

Tucking head into Shoulders: Another sign of insecurity and fear, we tuck our head into our shoulders when we feel worried or concerned.

These are some of the most common body language gestures and you likely knew a lot of their meanings already. In other words, you already have an intuitive ability to read people?s body language. Trust your gut instinct when watching people: what your instinct tells you is usually true.

Those wanting to learn to read body language would do well to consider how much they already, innately, know about body language. Take a gander at this list of the most common body language gestures and you?ll find that you know more about body language than you thought.

The Most Common Body Language Gestures Leaning Forward: Let?s start with an extremely simple body language gesture. Leaning forwards is the universal sign of interest. If you?re talking to someone and they lean forward, you know they?re listening to you.

Leg over Chair Arm: A person witting with their leg over a chair arm is showing indifference. When talking to someone, if they do this it means they?re not interested.

Head Shake: Of course, you already know that shaking your head means "no." But did you know that if you speak while shaking your head, your listener is more likely to disagree with you (that?s right; you shake your head, they disagree).

Nodding your Head: Nodding your head is a sign of agreement, but more than this, if while you are the one talking you nod your head, your listener is more likely to agree with you. Weird.

Holding Hands Behind Head: A person holding their hands interlocked behind their head is showing that they feel superior. It?s a classic sign of arrogance. Don?t do this, it will make people dislike you.

Chair Straddling: When people straddle chairs they are showing aggression. They use the front of the chair to protect their own body while they try to dominate a conversation. This definitely is not good social etiquette!

Legs Spread: When a guy stands with his legs spread he is deliberately showing strength and dominance. This is a classic body language gesture used by alleged "alpha males."

Sucking a Pen: Sucking a pen can only mean one thing; insecurity.

Tucking head into Shoulders: Another sign of insecurity and fear, we tuck our head into our shoulders when we feel worried or concerned.

These are some of the most common body language gestures and you likely knew a lot of their meanings already. In other words, you already have an intuitive ability to read people?s body language. Trust your gut instinct when watching people: what your instinct tells you is usually true.

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Seen: Coralette Damme @ Empouria

The Studio @ 620 has partnered with the Empouria bar for the Artist Spotlight Series. It is a satellite space concept, turning business wall space into art space. Their first artist in the series is Coralette Damme (aka the Crafty Hag), who has been reviewed here several times. She works as a printmaker, crafter and painter in a recontextualized German Expressionist style. The subjects are totemic animal icons.

Here are a few pictures of the show...








Coralette Damme, "Barn Owl".



Coralette Damme, "Ray Bradbeary"






Coralette Damme, "Gargoyles"


Coralette Damme, "Red-Winged Blackbird"


Coralette Damme in front of her work.




Congratulations to Coralette, Empouria, and 620 for a very good show and a new space.

Empouria is at 29 Third St. North in St. Pete.

Empouria is open Sunday-Friday 4 PM - close, Saturday 12 PM - close. It's an elegant bar space.

The Studio @ 620 has partnered with the Empouria bar for the Artist Spotlight Series. It is a satellite space concept, turning business wall space into art space. Their first artist in the series is Coralette Damme (aka the Crafty Hag), who has been reviewed here several times. She works as a printmaker, crafter and painter in a recontextualized German Expressionist style. The subjects are totemic animal icons.

Here are a few pictures of the show...








Coralette Damme, "Barn Owl".



Coralette Damme, "Ray Bradbeary"






Coralette Damme, "Gargoyles"


Coralette Damme, "Red-Winged Blackbird"


Coralette Damme in front of her work.




Congratulations to Coralette, Empouria, and 620 for a very good show and a new space.

Empouria is at 29 Third St. North in St. Pete.

Empouria is open Sunday-Friday 4 PM - close, Saturday 12 PM - close. It's an elegant bar space.

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ARCA Alum Leila Amineddoleh Begins First Month as Executive Director for the Lawyer's Committee for Cultural Heritage Preservation

by Catherine Sezgin, ARCA Blog Editor-in-Chief

Leila Amineddoleh (Cappadocia)
Leila Amineddoleh (ARCA Alum '10) is the new Executive Director for the Lawyer's Committee for Cultural Heritage Preservation as of April 1.

Ms. Amineddoleh is of counsel at Lombard & Geliebter LLP and Adjunct Professor at Fordham University School of Law. In addition, Leila has been a frequent contributor to the ARCA Blog and a presenter at ARCA's Art Crime Conference. Leila, a pianist, also created "Classical Twist" with ARCA classmate and violinist Daniella Fischetti.

What will you be looking forward to this year in your role as Executive Director?
I am so excited about this position because the LCCHP is a great organization. The committee is in the midst of planning an exciting conference in NYC (tentatively planned for Nov 1-2,2013); submitting a written statement and testifying in support of the renewal of the Memorandum of Understanding between China and the US; continuing our call for the return of the ancient golden table at issue in In Re: Riven Flamenbaum; supporting the work of the Cambodian and US governments in repatriating a looted statue from Cambodia; and various other advocacy projects that are in the works.
Will we be seeing you in Amelia and are you presenting?
Unfortunately I will not be at the 2013 ARCA conference, but I will be spending time in Italy as I'll be teaching Art & Cultural Heritage Law in Rome for St. John's School of Law's summer program. What other upcoming conferences or panels will you be attending? Earlier this month I moderated a panel at Fordham Law School entitled "Defining Cultural Ownership: Shifting Focus, Shifting Norms..." It was well-attended and absolutely fascinating, as we had a fantastic line-up of speakers. My time in Italy this summer will also be busy with events, as my course includes tours around Rome, a field trip to the Roman Forum (led by an archaeologist), and various other events. I haven't committed to any other major events scheduled for after my time in Rome, due to the demands of my litigation practice. However, things in NY generally start getting hectic again in the fall.
by Catherine Sezgin, ARCA Blog Editor-in-Chief

Leila Amineddoleh (Cappadocia)
Leila Amineddoleh (ARCA Alum '10) is the new Executive Director for the Lawyer's Committee for Cultural Heritage Preservation as of April 1.

Ms. Amineddoleh is of counsel at Lombard & Geliebter LLP and Adjunct Professor at Fordham University School of Law. In addition, Leila has been a frequent contributor to the ARCA Blog and a presenter at ARCA's Art Crime Conference. Leila, a pianist, also created "Classical Twist" with ARCA classmate and violinist Daniella Fischetti.

What will you be looking forward to this year in your role as Executive Director?
I am so excited about this position because the LCCHP is a great organization. The committee is in the midst of planning an exciting conference in NYC (tentatively planned for Nov 1-2,2013); submitting a written statement and testifying in support of the renewal of the Memorandum of Understanding between China and the US; continuing our call for the return of the ancient golden table at issue in In Re: Riven Flamenbaum; supporting the work of the Cambodian and US governments in repatriating a looted statue from Cambodia; and various other advocacy projects that are in the works.
Will we be seeing you in Amelia and are you presenting?
Unfortunately I will not be at the 2013 ARCA conference, but I will be spending time in Italy as I'll be teaching Art & Cultural Heritage Law in Rome for St. John's School of Law's summer program. What other upcoming conferences or panels will you be attending? Earlier this month I moderated a panel at Fordham Law School entitled "Defining Cultural Ownership: Shifting Focus, Shifting Norms..." It was well-attended and absolutely fascinating, as we had a fantastic line-up of speakers. My time in Italy this summer will also be busy with events, as my course includes tours around Rome, a field trip to the Roman Forum (led by an archaeologist), and various other events. I haven't committed to any other major events scheduled for after my time in Rome, due to the demands of my litigation practice. However, things in NY generally start getting hectic again in the fall.
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Rob's 60th/Fundraiser for the children of Nepal.

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How to Redirect a Meeting Monopolizer By Helen Thamm

Ever been in a meeting where one person talks and talks and TALKs and either repeats her point over and over or talks around the subject? About the only thing those folks inspire from the rest of the team is a strong desire to "space out" or maybe even think about "checking out"!

If no one intervenes and helps the over talker "bottom line" what he says, (i.e. shorten up and focus to share his thoughts succinctly) he is likely to just keep on talking. Monopolizers don?t even seem to be in contact with whether anyone is paying attention as they tend to lack self awareness and how their behaviors make a negative impact on others. They often are not even aware they engage in long and sometimes boring monologues, rather than being part of healthy give and take interactions with their peers. As a result, meetings can often run overtime as well and important items on an agenda may not even have time to be addressed. Therefore it is really important for the facilitator (or a confident, assertive peer) to help redirect them, so all who wish to can give their input and feel valued.

Important Points to Remember to Effectively Help Redirect a Meeting Monopolizer

In order to help people with these issues to bottom line their ideas and in the process show respect for the rest of the team, it is important for the facilitator to be tactful and gentle, as these people tend to have sensitive egos. Here of some of the tips from facilitators who have successfully redirected over talkers:

1) Wait for the person to "take a breath" then ask her for clarification of a major point.
2) Compliment the person on a pertinent point he shared, then remind him of the need to move on with the agenda.
3) Thank the person for her ideas and then ask for the team?s feedback.
4) If the person tends to cut people off when he is excited to share a personal viewpoint, the facilitator in a calm voice can simply say "excuse me, I need to hear the rest of what ? was sharing". Hopefully soon a peer who was being cut off can become confident enough to say the "excuse me, I wasn?t finished with what I was sharing" himself or herself.
5) Use a time keeper to keep the meeting flowing from topic to topic covered in the agenda to help keep those who otherwise might tend to wander off topic more focused.
6) Use a round robin format for meetings. i.e. let the group know that you want to hear from each member of the group, allowing anyone who wishes to pass if she wishes.
7) Give positive feedback when a long-winded talker does "bottom line" what he has to say.

Facilitating meetings is always a bit of a challenge because you may have a diverse set of personalities in your group (The DISC Personality Profile which can be found online, is a great, brief test that can help a leader discern the needs and fears of each personality style, including the most talkative type, and therefore better engage each member of a team).To mold a really fantastic team, it is important to create an atmosphere of cooperation, not competition. Often meeting monopolizers want to be the focus of attention in order to prove how much they know, which may stem from their own belief in their need to prove their worth. Therefore always remember to be gentle when redirecting them, as their feelings tend to easily be hurt.

Intervene Quickly to Avoid Long-term Consequences

What is important as a leader, however, is to intervene quickly or the meeting monopolizer like the old Packman game gobblers will consume your whole meeting. Redirecting him/her shows respect for all members of the team and is important to help the leader build credibility. Showing respect for all members of a team is paramount for building a healthy workplace!

Ever been in a meeting where one person talks and talks and TALKs and either repeats her point over and over or talks around the subject? About the only thing those folks inspire from the rest of the team is a strong desire to "space out" or maybe even think about "checking out"!

If no one intervenes and helps the over talker "bottom line" what he says, (i.e. shorten up and focus to share his thoughts succinctly) he is likely to just keep on talking. Monopolizers don?t even seem to be in contact with whether anyone is paying attention as they tend to lack self awareness and how their behaviors make a negative impact on others. They often are not even aware they engage in long and sometimes boring monologues, rather than being part of healthy give and take interactions with their peers. As a result, meetings can often run overtime as well and important items on an agenda may not even have time to be addressed. Therefore it is really important for the facilitator (or a confident, assertive peer) to help redirect them, so all who wish to can give their input and feel valued.

Important Points to Remember to Effectively Help Redirect a Meeting Monopolizer

In order to help people with these issues to bottom line their ideas and in the process show respect for the rest of the team, it is important for the facilitator to be tactful and gentle, as these people tend to have sensitive egos. Here of some of the tips from facilitators who have successfully redirected over talkers:

1) Wait for the person to "take a breath" then ask her for clarification of a major point.
2) Compliment the person on a pertinent point he shared, then remind him of the need to move on with the agenda.
3) Thank the person for her ideas and then ask for the team?s feedback.
4) If the person tends to cut people off when he is excited to share a personal viewpoint, the facilitator in a calm voice can simply say "excuse me, I need to hear the rest of what ? was sharing". Hopefully soon a peer who was being cut off can become confident enough to say the "excuse me, I wasn?t finished with what I was sharing" himself or herself.
5) Use a time keeper to keep the meeting flowing from topic to topic covered in the agenda to help keep those who otherwise might tend to wander off topic more focused.
6) Use a round robin format for meetings. i.e. let the group know that you want to hear from each member of the group, allowing anyone who wishes to pass if she wishes.
7) Give positive feedback when a long-winded talker does "bottom line" what he has to say.

Facilitating meetings is always a bit of a challenge because you may have a diverse set of personalities in your group (The DISC Personality Profile which can be found online, is a great, brief test that can help a leader discern the needs and fears of each personality style, including the most talkative type, and therefore better engage each member of a team).To mold a really fantastic team, it is important to create an atmosphere of cooperation, not competition. Often meeting monopolizers want to be the focus of attention in order to prove how much they know, which may stem from their own belief in their need to prove their worth. Therefore always remember to be gentle when redirecting them, as their feelings tend to easily be hurt.

Intervene Quickly to Avoid Long-term Consequences

What is important as a leader, however, is to intervene quickly or the meeting monopolizer like the old Packman game gobblers will consume your whole meeting. Redirecting him/her shows respect for all members of the team and is important to help the leader build credibility. Showing respect for all members of a team is paramount for building a healthy workplace!

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Evenings in Wonderland: Long, delightful and strange.

It was a long, delightful and strange weekend in Wonderland...with robotic and real smiles, snatched intimate knowing glances, moments that stretched out insufferably long or ended much too soon, hordes of ninja bushwhackers acid-driping our brains while friends gravitated together undercover and in plain view, hugging for a brief infinity on a street corner, talking through loud music in the hot evening air on a  crowded balcony or by stand-up tables, faces almost touching, cherishing still moments in near-darkness, healing each other and sharing understandings...and hoping you would show up on Boliche Blvd. Wannabees and suck-ups bartering implied flesh and money with toothy, drooling predators in sign language and text, fake smiles, boobs, jewelry, handshakes, entities, identities, awash in the quantum foam of the floating world, interleaving with the authentic like cards blurred between a magician's hands. All at about 24 fps.

--- Luis
It was a long, delightful and strange weekend in Wonderland...with robotic and real smiles, snatched intimate knowing glances, moments that stretched out insufferably long or ended much too soon, hordes of ninja bushwhackers acid-driping our brains while friends gravitated together undercover and in plain view, hugging for a brief infinity on a street corner, talking through loud music in the hot evening air on a  crowded balcony or by stand-up tables, faces almost touching, cherishing still moments in near-darkness, healing each other and sharing understandings...and hoping you would show up on Boliche Blvd. Wannabees and suck-ups bartering implied flesh and money with toothy, drooling predators in sign language and text, fake smiles, boobs, jewelry, handshakes, entities, identities, awash in the quantum foam of the floating world, interleaving with the authentic like cards blurred between a magician's hands. All at about 24 fps.

--- Luis
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What's changing is the way we get there By Ron Sukenick

There is a fundamental desire in all of us to be in relationship, and to develop relationships that flourish. We stressed that the desire for building deeper relationships is a basic human need found in all of us.
This desire is a subject that is more popular today then any other time in history. There are hundreds of books written on relationships.
Television shows talk about it. Individuals talk about it. Counselors, therapists, and success coaches talk about it. In spite of the interest and awareness, and an almost over abundance of information regarding relationship, this greatest of all desires is largely unfulfilled.
How can that be? Perhaps with all this information, we are still uncertain or confused as to the vital factors that contribute to deepening relationship satisfaction.
The 5 R's of Relationship

Choosing and deepening relationships are interrelated. At each point in your relationship's, you and those to whom you relate may choose either to develop or not to develop your relationships further.
How do we make that choice? Of course, there are many ways. One person described her experience as jumping belly first into the water. For me, it's like going into a swimming pool and testing the water first;
Gingerly testing the water with toes, feet, and then slowly edging into the water. I temper my approach into the water with caution depending on whether it is a warm day in June versus a hot day in July. If the sun is shining or if it is overcast, we may approach the water differently.
The same is true in relationship. We continuously feel our way along in the meeting with another. We test the temperature, gauging the mutuality and connection, and then step back to assess how it feels for us, and whether the other person or persons have a reciprocal response. A multitude of factors in our environment are considered in going forward. Sometimes, no holds barred, we jump right in!
We offer the following five R's to throw into the mix of discussion around this very critical topic: Rewardingness, Reciprocity, Rules, Resourceful, and Relationshift.
Rewardingness

Webster defines rewarding as a sense of reward or worthwhile return. We are building on this definition by defining rewardingness as an ongoing exchange and flow based on mutual benefit for all. This exchange may be in providing services or products, or sharing learning, contacts, or resources.
There exists a fundamental psychological principle that people are more likely to repeat behaviors that have rewarding consequences for them than those that do not. Relationships are likely to deepen if partners can increase the range and depth of the mutual rewards they receive from one another, and if they are able to sustain a high level of mutual trust and benefits.
The Relationship provides joyful experiences along the way that evoke from us and from others. This is a reward in of itself.
Phil Black, a student, writer, and teacher of Gestalt Psychotherapy poses the rhetorical question "when all goals are close to equal, what determines who we remain in relationship with towards these outcomes, whether it is business or pleasure? It is the relationship itself that determines this decision-the ease and the pleasure derived. In the end, there must be joy: a laugh, a smile, or we will not find satisfaction, and we will not stay with or return to. We capture his remark and say yes, it is the reward of the relationship that keep us involved.
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Reciprocity - Rules - Resourcefulness - Relationshift

Webster defines reciprocity as a corresponding and complementary exchange; the quality or state of being reciprocal. Through mutual dependence, action or influence, a mutual exchange of privileges takes place. This definition fits well with the underlying intention that is inherent to a relationship focus. Most long standing relationships are grounded in some form of reciprocity in the giving and receiving of rewards. Cunningham and Antill (1981) observe "It is indisputable that most human relationships are based on considerations of equity and exchange." Sharing this view of reciprocity as a joint responsibility enhances and deepens the relationship and the connection. Most of us are familiar with the barter system as it relates to goods or services, but few of us think of it in terms of relationship building.
Rules are defined by Webster's New World Dictionary as an established regulation or guide for conduct. The definition for the purpose of this book is to reinforce that each of us brings rules to the relationship based on many personal factors and that rules also emerge in relationship. The personal factors, to name a few, may include personality characteristics, boundary preferences, time availability or urgency, level of experience, geographical or global factors, comfort level, life focus, or monetary needs/constraints. The rules that emerge in relationship are based on the reason for the relationship, the length of the relationship, the level of established trust, and the degree of confidence that exists. Rules constantly change as the relationship changes. While the rules may become formal or contractual, they are often informal. These relationship rules provide guidelines and clarify expectations for your own and your partner's behavior. Remembering to look at these rules from time to time helps us to uncover whether the relationship rule continues to serve us well, or whether suspending or replacing it would serve the relationship better.
Webster defines resource as a source of information or expertise; a source of supply or support. resourcefulness is the ability to effectively and efficiently respond to problems and determine the resources that are important (people, technology, material, services, time, et cetera.) Resourcefully responding to the need in the moment, calls for attention to ongoing reemerging needs. This constant reevaluation helps us answer the question what is needed now; and the ongoing accumulation of knowledge, skills, and a large network of contacts helps us become more resourceful in relationship.
The spirit of the word relationshift is that a relationship never really ends; it simply flows to something else--a relationshift, becoming relevant again when time, opportunity and a mutual focus reemerges. An Oxford dictionary points to the word relevance derived from the French word relief as to lift up, to relieve. Oxford offers the synonyms aiding, assisting and helping. Webster's definition is as relating to the matter under consideration; pertinence. We bring these two words together-relevance and relationship, and further expand the definition to consider the questions who, why, when, where, and how. We have changing needs and we need to ask a host of questions as we go forward in relationship.
Paying attention to relevance in a given situation will keep us on target toward developing that which aligns to what is most important to self, and most important to the other as well. In short, relevance is constantly changing. That is the very reason attention to the shift taking place in relationship is important. While the relevance of the relationship is changing in the present, it is also imperative for all of us to understand that relationships, as a whole, always have been and always will be shifting! A collaboration may end now, but may come back again twenty years from now. Relevance emerges, if you will, around a common goal. Developing a meaningful and quality relationship is the lifeblood of taking your personal and professional relationships to the next level--lifting up and helping others along the way. When we look at a relationship with these eyes, we see that we can easily pick up again as we move forward in our personal and professional life.
The process of recognizing the transformation of a relationship to something else is one of the most liberating realizations an individual can experience- freeing self up to letting go and moving on while recreating a relationship vision with the same person. In one's personal and professional life this allows for a natural transformation of relationship.
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Summary

The five relationship factors presented in this excerpt are foundational to taking your personal and professional relationships to the next level. The 5 R's, rewardingness, reciprocity, rules, resourcefulness, and relationshift, support a relationship focus whereby new possibilities are continuously created.
Each of these factors describes a context for the existence, the fluidity, the vitality, and the richness of the relationship to emerge and flourish. The 5 R's reinforce the importance of paying attention to the relationship based on benefits, common interests, resource identification, expectations, requirements, and mutuality.

There is a fundamental desire in all of us to be in relationship, and to develop relationships that flourish. We stressed that the desire for building deeper relationships is a basic human need found in all of us.
This desire is a subject that is more popular today then any other time in history. There are hundreds of books written on relationships.
Television shows talk about it. Individuals talk about it. Counselors, therapists, and success coaches talk about it. In spite of the interest and awareness, and an almost over abundance of information regarding relationship, this greatest of all desires is largely unfulfilled.
How can that be? Perhaps with all this information, we are still uncertain or confused as to the vital factors that contribute to deepening relationship satisfaction.
The 5 R's of Relationship

Choosing and deepening relationships are interrelated. At each point in your relationship's, you and those to whom you relate may choose either to develop or not to develop your relationships further.
How do we make that choice? Of course, there are many ways. One person described her experience as jumping belly first into the water. For me, it's like going into a swimming pool and testing the water first;
Gingerly testing the water with toes, feet, and then slowly edging into the water. I temper my approach into the water with caution depending on whether it is a warm day in June versus a hot day in July. If the sun is shining or if it is overcast, we may approach the water differently.
The same is true in relationship. We continuously feel our way along in the meeting with another. We test the temperature, gauging the mutuality and connection, and then step back to assess how it feels for us, and whether the other person or persons have a reciprocal response. A multitude of factors in our environment are considered in going forward. Sometimes, no holds barred, we jump right in!
We offer the following five R's to throw into the mix of discussion around this very critical topic: Rewardingness, Reciprocity, Rules, Resourceful, and Relationshift.
Rewardingness

Webster defines rewarding as a sense of reward or worthwhile return. We are building on this definition by defining rewardingness as an ongoing exchange and flow based on mutual benefit for all. This exchange may be in providing services or products, or sharing learning, contacts, or resources.
There exists a fundamental psychological principle that people are more likely to repeat behaviors that have rewarding consequences for them than those that do not. Relationships are likely to deepen if partners can increase the range and depth of the mutual rewards they receive from one another, and if they are able to sustain a high level of mutual trust and benefits.
The Relationship provides joyful experiences along the way that evoke from us and from others. This is a reward in of itself.
Phil Black, a student, writer, and teacher of Gestalt Psychotherapy poses the rhetorical question "when all goals are close to equal, what determines who we remain in relationship with towards these outcomes, whether it is business or pleasure? It is the relationship itself that determines this decision-the ease and the pleasure derived. In the end, there must be joy: a laugh, a smile, or we will not find satisfaction, and we will not stay with or return to. We capture his remark and say yes, it is the reward of the relationship that keep us involved.
?

Reciprocity - Rules - Resourcefulness - Relationshift

Webster defines reciprocity as a corresponding and complementary exchange; the quality or state of being reciprocal. Through mutual dependence, action or influence, a mutual exchange of privileges takes place. This definition fits well with the underlying intention that is inherent to a relationship focus. Most long standing relationships are grounded in some form of reciprocity in the giving and receiving of rewards. Cunningham and Antill (1981) observe "It is indisputable that most human relationships are based on considerations of equity and exchange." Sharing this view of reciprocity as a joint responsibility enhances and deepens the relationship and the connection. Most of us are familiar with the barter system as it relates to goods or services, but few of us think of it in terms of relationship building.
Rules are defined by Webster's New World Dictionary as an established regulation or guide for conduct. The definition for the purpose of this book is to reinforce that each of us brings rules to the relationship based on many personal factors and that rules also emerge in relationship. The personal factors, to name a few, may include personality characteristics, boundary preferences, time availability or urgency, level of experience, geographical or global factors, comfort level, life focus, or monetary needs/constraints. The rules that emerge in relationship are based on the reason for the relationship, the length of the relationship, the level of established trust, and the degree of confidence that exists. Rules constantly change as the relationship changes. While the rules may become formal or contractual, they are often informal. These relationship rules provide guidelines and clarify expectations for your own and your partner's behavior. Remembering to look at these rules from time to time helps us to uncover whether the relationship rule continues to serve us well, or whether suspending or replacing it would serve the relationship better.
Webster defines resource as a source of information or expertise; a source of supply or support. resourcefulness is the ability to effectively and efficiently respond to problems and determine the resources that are important (people, technology, material, services, time, et cetera.) Resourcefully responding to the need in the moment, calls for attention to ongoing reemerging needs. This constant reevaluation helps us answer the question what is needed now; and the ongoing accumulation of knowledge, skills, and a large network of contacts helps us become more resourceful in relationship.
The spirit of the word relationshift is that a relationship never really ends; it simply flows to something else--a relationshift, becoming relevant again when time, opportunity and a mutual focus reemerges. An Oxford dictionary points to the word relevance derived from the French word relief as to lift up, to relieve. Oxford offers the synonyms aiding, assisting and helping. Webster's definition is as relating to the matter under consideration; pertinence. We bring these two words together-relevance and relationship, and further expand the definition to consider the questions who, why, when, where, and how. We have changing needs and we need to ask a host of questions as we go forward in relationship.
Paying attention to relevance in a given situation will keep us on target toward developing that which aligns to what is most important to self, and most important to the other as well. In short, relevance is constantly changing. That is the very reason attention to the shift taking place in relationship is important. While the relevance of the relationship is changing in the present, it is also imperative for all of us to understand that relationships, as a whole, always have been and always will be shifting! A collaboration may end now, but may come back again twenty years from now. Relevance emerges, if you will, around a common goal. Developing a meaningful and quality relationship is the lifeblood of taking your personal and professional relationships to the next level--lifting up and helping others along the way. When we look at a relationship with these eyes, we see that we can easily pick up again as we move forward in our personal and professional life.
The process of recognizing the transformation of a relationship to something else is one of the most liberating realizations an individual can experience- freeing self up to letting go and moving on while recreating a relationship vision with the same person. In one's personal and professional life this allows for a natural transformation of relationship.
?

Summary

The five relationship factors presented in this excerpt are foundational to taking your personal and professional relationships to the next level. The 5 R's, rewardingness, reciprocity, rules, resourcefulness, and relationshift, support a relationship focus whereby new possibilities are continuously created.
Each of these factors describes a context for the existence, the fluidity, the vitality, and the richness of the relationship to emerge and flourish. The 5 R's reinforce the importance of paying attention to the relationship based on benefits, common interests, resource identification, expectations, requirements, and mutuality.

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Developing More Self Esteem By James Bendure

Cultivating self confidence comes casually to some people, if you are like me though and aren't one of those lucky ones, then you have to set a goal and formulate a plan to reach it to have more self confidence. Fortunately, self confidence is a craft that you can learn to change just like riding a bike or driving a car / truck.

The first time you taught yourself to ride a bicycle, that was your goal and the first step towards that goal would have been to start with a tricycle. You have to know that you are able to pedal and to travel on a vehicle. Next is to try a bicycle with training wheels. Now, you are moving closer to your end goal but with a little built-in help so you do not fall over. Next thing to try is to have someone hold you upright on the bicycle with out the training wheels. After lots of practice, you will finally learn to ride the bicycle without any help at all.

Having self confidence in other things is the same. Set your goal and develop a plan and action items to achieve that goal.

The goal of self confidence in dating:To build dating confidence: Begin with talking. Talk to everyone you deal with during your day. The guy at the bus stop. Make eye contact and say hi, get used to speaking to the opposite sex. Try hanging out with that special person at a group event. It will be much less intimidating for both of you when you are just doing something with the whole group. Now, try some double dates. This is a more private setting where it feels more like a date. You can get used to dating this person. When you have more confidence with double dates, you can then go on dates by yourselves. They will give you positive feedback and it will cultivate your self confidence. You can also ask them for advice to build on your knowledge and be able to perform with even more confidence. These people usually have had a few drinks and are in a jovial mood. There is less emotional stress performing in front of them. After that, you can try to find an opening at a local club. Now, you can perform in front of people that are looking for food and entertainment. But since, it is a tavern or restaurant, they are not all only watching you, making it less intimidating. With many of these performances behind you, you will achieve self confidence.

Here are some other quick tips to have self confidence:

Learn from you failures.
Be assertive.
Reward yourself whenever you succeed.
Don't worry about what others think.
Practice good hygiene.

Cultivating self confidence comes casually to some people, if you are like me though and aren't one of those lucky ones, then you have to set a goal and formulate a plan to reach it to have more self confidence. Fortunately, self confidence is a craft that you can learn to change just like riding a bike or driving a car / truck.

The first time you taught yourself to ride a bicycle, that was your goal and the first step towards that goal would have been to start with a tricycle. You have to know that you are able to pedal and to travel on a vehicle. Next is to try a bicycle with training wheels. Now, you are moving closer to your end goal but with a little built-in help so you do not fall over. Next thing to try is to have someone hold you upright on the bicycle with out the training wheels. After lots of practice, you will finally learn to ride the bicycle without any help at all.

Having self confidence in other things is the same. Set your goal and develop a plan and action items to achieve that goal.

The goal of self confidence in dating:To build dating confidence: Begin with talking. Talk to everyone you deal with during your day. The guy at the bus stop. Make eye contact and say hi, get used to speaking to the opposite sex. Try hanging out with that special person at a group event. It will be much less intimidating for both of you when you are just doing something with the whole group. Now, try some double dates. This is a more private setting where it feels more like a date. You can get used to dating this person. When you have more confidence with double dates, you can then go on dates by yourselves. They will give you positive feedback and it will cultivate your self confidence. You can also ask them for advice to build on your knowledge and be able to perform with even more confidence. These people usually have had a few drinks and are in a jovial mood. There is less emotional stress performing in front of them. After that, you can try to find an opening at a local club. Now, you can perform in front of people that are looking for food and entertainment. But since, it is a tavern or restaurant, they are not all only watching you, making it less intimidating. With many of these performances behind you, you will achieve self confidence.

Here are some other quick tips to have self confidence:

Learn from you failures.
Be assertive.
Reward yourself whenever you succeed.
Don't worry about what others think.
Practice good hygiene.

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The world of relationship is like a Kaleidoscope By Ron Sukenick

When we fundamentally understand that we have a multitude of considerations that impact how we are in relationship, our view of change and the importance of change is magnified.

Let?s take a few minutes and communicate about relationships and change. When you were a youngster, did you enjoy looking into a Kaleidoscope?

Were you amazed at the infinite varieties of colors and patterns that evolved as it turned in your hand? Did you ever turn it so quickly that you did not have a chance to fully appreciate what you were watching because things were changing so quickly in the little viewer?

The changes in the viewer pale in comparison to the changes experienced in the last decade--and the changes we will experience in the years to come.

There was very little to think about when turning that little Kaleidoscope: just look and enjoy. If you view the world of relationship as a Kaleidoscope, you will see change. Rather than standing there mesmerized or memorizing the colors and patterns as if you can keep things the same, imagine what it might be like to be the colors.

For openers, think about every second of your life, every minute, every day, being different from the preceding second, minute, or day. No two interactions or opportunities are the same, just as the patterns in the Kaleidoscope are never the same. Changes are inevitable--in behavior, in life patterns, in your knowledge base, in your habits, and in your relationships. We are not the same person we were even moments ago. People change. Look around you. Are there new people in your life that were not there a month ago, six months ago, last year? Get to know people around you, and get involved with them. Don?t just observe the changes passively, as if you are looking into a viewer. Be a part of them. Get to know people you come into contact with, what they do, what makes them tick. Become interested in them and how you can help them. They?ll do the same for you and you?ll enjoy life more.

Technology changes. Are you still using the same equipment as one, two, five years ago? Not very likely. And the equipment you are now using will become obsolete in the near future. Further more, staying abreast of the technological changes and discussing preferred communication tools with your partner is key in developing a collaborative relationship. Leadership techniques change. When was the last time you picked up and read a management book for insight about new management and leadership practices?

An understanding of the changing needs of today?s workforce (that?s all of us!) will help you be more progressive and able to meet and partner with others within or outside your organization.

Economic factors, urgency, people?s values, technology, and relationship management: all changing everyday, truly a Kaleidoscope. You can become a part of the Kaleidoscope--get inside the viewer--and be the one who determines the next pattern, if you make up your mind to.

When we fundamentally understand that we have a multitude of considerations that impact how we are in relationship, our view of change and the importance of change is magnified.

Let?s take a few minutes and communicate about relationships and change. When you were a youngster, did you enjoy looking into a Kaleidoscope?

Were you amazed at the infinite varieties of colors and patterns that evolved as it turned in your hand? Did you ever turn it so quickly that you did not have a chance to fully appreciate what you were watching because things were changing so quickly in the little viewer?

The changes in the viewer pale in comparison to the changes experienced in the last decade--and the changes we will experience in the years to come.

There was very little to think about when turning that little Kaleidoscope: just look and enjoy. If you view the world of relationship as a Kaleidoscope, you will see change. Rather than standing there mesmerized or memorizing the colors and patterns as if you can keep things the same, imagine what it might be like to be the colors.

For openers, think about every second of your life, every minute, every day, being different from the preceding second, minute, or day. No two interactions or opportunities are the same, just as the patterns in the Kaleidoscope are never the same. Changes are inevitable--in behavior, in life patterns, in your knowledge base, in your habits, and in your relationships. We are not the same person we were even moments ago. People change. Look around you. Are there new people in your life that were not there a month ago, six months ago, last year? Get to know people around you, and get involved with them. Don?t just observe the changes passively, as if you are looking into a viewer. Be a part of them. Get to know people you come into contact with, what they do, what makes them tick. Become interested in them and how you can help them. They?ll do the same for you and you?ll enjoy life more.

Technology changes. Are you still using the same equipment as one, two, five years ago? Not very likely. And the equipment you are now using will become obsolete in the near future. Further more, staying abreast of the technological changes and discussing preferred communication tools with your partner is key in developing a collaborative relationship. Leadership techniques change. When was the last time you picked up and read a management book for insight about new management and leadership practices?

An understanding of the changing needs of today?s workforce (that?s all of us!) will help you be more progressive and able to meet and partner with others within or outside your organization.

Economic factors, urgency, people?s values, technology, and relationship management: all changing everyday, truly a Kaleidoscope. You can become a part of the Kaleidoscope--get inside the viewer--and be the one who determines the next pattern, if you make up your mind to.

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Successful People Are Organized By Jessica Lane

Highly effective and successful people tend to share similar characteristics in common. In fact, entire books have been written on the kinds of practices and habits people can adopt in order to run their lives more efficiently and find more success. These are the kinds of things that some people are born with a gift to do naturally, such as waking up early, never forgetting to write a thank-you note or always remembering an acquaintance or business associate?s name. However, even if you were not blessed with the ability to do these things naturally, there are numerous ways you can integrate the habits of successful people into your own life ? with the hope of turning yourself into a successful person, of course!

Organization is key

People who manage to get a lot of impressive things done tend to be highly organized. This is an essential part of managing and juggling numerous tasks and projects. One saying states, "If you want something done, give it to a busy person," and it couldn?t be more true. Busy people can prioritize a set of tasks and manage their time wisely so that they get everything done. Making lists, delegating tasks, not wasting time and being realistic about what they can complete in a given day is standard operating procedure for these kinds of people, whereas others have to force themselves to do these things.

Building good habits for youngsters

Because organization is such an essential component of success, it?s important to encourage it from a young age if we want the young people of today to be the successful leaders of tomorrow. One of the best ways to do this is to encourage the use of student agendas. This is not necessarily something that students are inclined to do on their own without being prompted. If educators and parents introduce students to the idea of organizing their lives by writing things down and provide them with the tools to do it, they are more likely to carry that practice throughout the rest of their lives. There are a number of good Web resources to turn to, such as Meridian Planners, if you?re looking for the different kinds of formats available. The great thing about encouraging organization at a young age is that the benefits will have a multiplying effect. It won?t just be a student?s schoolwork and grades that improve, but also their prospects for a successful career in whatever field they choose.

Highly effective and successful people tend to share similar characteristics in common. In fact, entire books have been written on the kinds of practices and habits people can adopt in order to run their lives more efficiently and find more success. These are the kinds of things that some people are born with a gift to do naturally, such as waking up early, never forgetting to write a thank-you note or always remembering an acquaintance or business associate?s name. However, even if you were not blessed with the ability to do these things naturally, there are numerous ways you can integrate the habits of successful people into your own life ? with the hope of turning yourself into a successful person, of course!

Organization is key

People who manage to get a lot of impressive things done tend to be highly organized. This is an essential part of managing and juggling numerous tasks and projects. One saying states, "If you want something done, give it to a busy person," and it couldn?t be more true. Busy people can prioritize a set of tasks and manage their time wisely so that they get everything done. Making lists, delegating tasks, not wasting time and being realistic about what they can complete in a given day is standard operating procedure for these kinds of people, whereas others have to force themselves to do these things.

Building good habits for youngsters

Because organization is such an essential component of success, it?s important to encourage it from a young age if we want the young people of today to be the successful leaders of tomorrow. One of the best ways to do this is to encourage the use of student agendas. This is not necessarily something that students are inclined to do on their own without being prompted. If educators and parents introduce students to the idea of organizing their lives by writing things down and provide them with the tools to do it, they are more likely to carry that practice throughout the rest of their lives. There are a number of good Web resources to turn to, such as Meridian Planners, if you?re looking for the different kinds of formats available. The great thing about encouraging organization at a young age is that the benefits will have a multiplying effect. It won?t just be a student?s schoolwork and grades that improve, but also their prospects for a successful career in whatever field they choose.

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The Pink Show @


Mishou Sanchez is having the Pink Show at her innovative Modern Bohemian galleries. 15 artists, different perspectives, all gorgeous. Free admission. Will post more info as event develops. Please join us :) 
11252 Winthrop Main St, Riverview, Hillsborough County, Florida 33578

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Mishou Sanchez is having the Pink Show at her innovative Modern Bohemian galleries. 15 artists, different perspectives, all gorgeous. Free admission. Will post more info as event develops. Please join us :) 
11252 Winthrop Main St, Riverview, Hillsborough County, Florida 33578

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Practice, Persistence and Patience By Amethyst Wyldfyre

Oh MY! (Lions & Tigers & Bears! OH MY!) - Here's what happens - when you are willing - to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE and PRACTICE some more - (this is called persistence) you begin to develop the magical quality of PATIENCE - allowing things to unfold in their OWN time - including YOU and your business. Part of the work of a Passion-preneur is the deep development of this patience muscle. You have been STRUCK THROUGH THE HEART and you have deep burning desire to serve the world in the highest ways possible to bring your gifts to the table, to help those you are here to serve and to joyfully co-create magic, miracles and money with your entrepreneurship! And yet...

There are SO many pieces of this ART of running a business - that sometimes you can trip, fall and get deeply discouraged. Here is where the practice comes in handy - one of my favorite practices is to become DEEPLY aware and just NOTICE when I've lost the fire in my belly and the flame in my heart for the work that I know I've been born to do. When that happens as a PRACTICE - it's time to take some time away from the work - and to make a retreat where you can re-kindle the flame and come back into right relationship with your business and fuel yourself to continue to persist in bringing your gifts in to the world in positive, productive and profitable ways.

It can be challenging to have a HUGE vision and then to realize that you are not going to INSTANTLY MANIFEST it! Spirit gives you these big visions as opportunities to grow - inside yourself and inside your business. Cultivating that patience muscle is a way to hone and refine your Spirit. When you wait for something - and when you take your time to carefully and mindfully and patiently craft something - then you will be creating lasting value in the world - and you will be (EXACTLY ON TIME) richly rewarded for it!

There are so many parts to a successful business - and the journey to success is one that is filled with a huge variety of challenges that you must face, apply your skill to and overcome. For many evolving entrepreneurs the discovery of your passionate purpose is just the beginning - there is so much to learn, so much to synthesize and then so much to integrate before finally putting all those parts together into a viable, sustainable, thriving enterprise that is the carrying vessel for your accumulated wisdom and knowledge.

I have been in the space myself of having been called into a BIG vision - the creation of a big Telesummit event - I've figured out why it's called a Summit! - Because like climbing a high mountain peak the creating and delivery of this event has been quite a journey - there have been a lot of ditches, some crevasses, a few slippery slopes, a lot of strategizing, some muscling through, and the peak at this point is ALMOST but NOT QUITE in sight!

How to stay the course? Practice - everyday - I have a yoga practice and I've also been called even more deeply into my own energetic practices as well as mindset work - the most valuable of which has been "STAY IN TODAY". Persist - just keep moving - put one foot in front of the other, step by step you make steady progress and finally PATIENCE - this has been a big life long quality that I've been cultivating. The harvest will arrive - in it's own time - you don't see the farmer planting a seed in the field and then going out the next day and looking for the fruit of the vine. Breathing is a great way to encourage patience and discourage anxiety and fear from creeping in when you wonder if you are ever going to make it to the peak or if you are going to go slipping away and crash and burn in a devastating heap! Just keep breathing.

Oh MY! (Lions & Tigers & Bears! OH MY!) - Here's what happens - when you are willing - to PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE and PRACTICE some more - (this is called persistence) you begin to develop the magical quality of PATIENCE - allowing things to unfold in their OWN time - including YOU and your business. Part of the work of a Passion-preneur is the deep development of this patience muscle. You have been STRUCK THROUGH THE HEART and you have deep burning desire to serve the world in the highest ways possible to bring your gifts to the table, to help those you are here to serve and to joyfully co-create magic, miracles and money with your entrepreneurship! And yet...

There are SO many pieces of this ART of running a business - that sometimes you can trip, fall and get deeply discouraged. Here is where the practice comes in handy - one of my favorite practices is to become DEEPLY aware and just NOTICE when I've lost the fire in my belly and the flame in my heart for the work that I know I've been born to do. When that happens as a PRACTICE - it's time to take some time away from the work - and to make a retreat where you can re-kindle the flame and come back into right relationship with your business and fuel yourself to continue to persist in bringing your gifts in to the world in positive, productive and profitable ways.

It can be challenging to have a HUGE vision and then to realize that you are not going to INSTANTLY MANIFEST it! Spirit gives you these big visions as opportunities to grow - inside yourself and inside your business. Cultivating that patience muscle is a way to hone and refine your Spirit. When you wait for something - and when you take your time to carefully and mindfully and patiently craft something - then you will be creating lasting value in the world - and you will be (EXACTLY ON TIME) richly rewarded for it!

There are so many parts to a successful business - and the journey to success is one that is filled with a huge variety of challenges that you must face, apply your skill to and overcome. For many evolving entrepreneurs the discovery of your passionate purpose is just the beginning - there is so much to learn, so much to synthesize and then so much to integrate before finally putting all those parts together into a viable, sustainable, thriving enterprise that is the carrying vessel for your accumulated wisdom and knowledge.

I have been in the space myself of having been called into a BIG vision - the creation of a big Telesummit event - I've figured out why it's called a Summit! - Because like climbing a high mountain peak the creating and delivery of this event has been quite a journey - there have been a lot of ditches, some crevasses, a few slippery slopes, a lot of strategizing, some muscling through, and the peak at this point is ALMOST but NOT QUITE in sight!

How to stay the course? Practice - everyday - I have a yoga practice and I've also been called even more deeply into my own energetic practices as well as mindset work - the most valuable of which has been "STAY IN TODAY". Persist - just keep moving - put one foot in front of the other, step by step you make steady progress and finally PATIENCE - this has been a big life long quality that I've been cultivating. The harvest will arrive - in it's own time - you don't see the farmer planting a seed in the field and then going out the next day and looking for the fruit of the vine. Breathing is a great way to encourage patience and discourage anxiety and fear from creeping in when you wonder if you are ever going to make it to the peak or if you are going to go slipping away and crash and burn in a devastating heap! Just keep breathing.

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Asking the Right Questions By Mike Martin

Asking the Right Questions

There are many ways to get the right answer but only if you know the right question. The great motivational speaker Anthony Robbins had this to say on the subject: "Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers."

In our everyday lives and too often in the workplace we ask the wrong question and we certainly tend to focus on quantity versus quality when it comes to asking questions. There may indeed be no "stupid" questions but there are questions that can help get closer to the truth and others which pull you far, far away.

In general there are two types of questions. There are questions that seek to learn and questions that seek to judge or get a person to lean our way in an argument or dispute. Judging and leaning questions are really looking to assign blame, defend an already held position or move another person closer to our point of view. Learning questions however are actually looking for new information and facts and sharing responsibility to resolve or improve a situation.

Another way to look at questions is to categorize them as powerful or power- draining questions. Powerful or empowering questions might be like what might best work for you in this situation or when are you most effective? Power-draining questions might be what went wrong here or how could this have happened? You can see how one set or style of questions might produce a completely different answer and result.

If you really want to improve a situation or get information that can correct a problem it is much better to ask a question in a way that allows the person to actually give you something to work with rather than retreating behind the cone of silence or even worse giving you incorrect information. Many times this means asking the question in a neutral way that shows you are not on a witch hunt. That might mean prefacing your question with a comment like "I'm not blaming anybody.. I just want to know what went wrong." Then ask your question and watch as the tension drains from the other person's face.

The other major thing to focus on in getting the right answer is to actually listen to the person who is trying to answer your question. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Ask your question as neutrally or powerfully as you can and then wait and wait and wait for the answer. Don't ask another question while you're waiting. Don't try to pre-empt their answer. Sometimes people are just thinking or maybe they are trying to decide if they can trust you.

Ask the right question, in the right way, and wait for the response. You just might get the right answer.

Mike Martin is the author of The Walker on the Cape, a Sgt. Windflower mystery.

Asking the Right Questions

There are many ways to get the right answer but only if you know the right question. The great motivational speaker Anthony Robbins had this to say on the subject: "Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers."

In our everyday lives and too often in the workplace we ask the wrong question and we certainly tend to focus on quantity versus quality when it comes to asking questions. There may indeed be no "stupid" questions but there are questions that can help get closer to the truth and others which pull you far, far away.

In general there are two types of questions. There are questions that seek to learn and questions that seek to judge or get a person to lean our way in an argument or dispute. Judging and leaning questions are really looking to assign blame, defend an already held position or move another person closer to our point of view. Learning questions however are actually looking for new information and facts and sharing responsibility to resolve or improve a situation.

Another way to look at questions is to categorize them as powerful or power- draining questions. Powerful or empowering questions might be like what might best work for you in this situation or when are you most effective? Power-draining questions might be what went wrong here or how could this have happened? You can see how one set or style of questions might produce a completely different answer and result.

If you really want to improve a situation or get information that can correct a problem it is much better to ask a question in a way that allows the person to actually give you something to work with rather than retreating behind the cone of silence or even worse giving you incorrect information. Many times this means asking the question in a neutral way that shows you are not on a witch hunt. That might mean prefacing your question with a comment like "I'm not blaming anybody.. I just want to know what went wrong." Then ask your question and watch as the tension drains from the other person's face.

The other major thing to focus on in getting the right answer is to actually listen to the person who is trying to answer your question. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Ask your question as neutrally or powerfully as you can and then wait and wait and wait for the answer. Don't ask another question while you're waiting. Don't try to pre-empt their answer. Sometimes people are just thinking or maybe they are trying to decide if they can trust you.

Ask the right question, in the right way, and wait for the response. You just might get the right answer.

Mike Martin is the author of The Walker on the Cape, a Sgt. Windflower mystery.

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The Top 3 MUSTS To Achieving Success In ANYTHING. By Ed Allen

I am a strong believer in success coming from proper information and execution. Many people struggle with the idea of success for the lack of ONE thing. The very thing that keeps so many people from succeeding is incredibly simple and when I tell you what it is, you will find it simple to the point of almost being silly. However, I find that the most profound things in life are actually the most simple things that we an adhere to and DO.

OK here it is: Most people are not successful simply because they have not had an example of success. They simple do not know what success looks like.

Isn?t that interesting? I think its very interesting.

So I am going to list and discuss 3 of the major components for people who have not had an example of success. These are things that successful people do, if they are conscious of it or not. Every success you see is based in these 3 things. It doesn?t matter WHAT success you are looking for, they all live in these principles. Don?t worry, they are also very simple.

1. Unequivocal Belief In Yourself
This is certainly easier said than done, but it is certainly extremely important in you journey for success of any type. No master piano player learns how to play the piano without believing they will eventually learn how fully master playing the piano. Records are broken almost every day because the record breaker believes and sees the record as immaterial, nothing to focus on. But they focus on themselves and breaking the record, and they do. It isn?t a new concept but it is one that we forget. You MUST learn how to believe in yourself in being able accomplish ANYTHING, no matter how hard it may seem, or how hard it may ACTUALLY be. We are all greater than our circumstances, but we have to be constantly reminded of it. So here is your reminder, Believe in yourself with all the power you can muster, and trust me, that is a lot!

2. Conscious decision to succeed
Who knows the famous quote "A Journey of 1000 miles starts with one step"? Yes I know it is a bit cliche at this point, but the principle that it supports is universal and unending and also un-clicheable, yes I just made up and word and yes you can use it! But the point is this: Even before you MAKE that first step on your new journey, you have to do something in a secret place that no one else knows of and has no map to. That is your mind. You must in YOUR mind, decide to take the first step into whatever it is you want to accomplish, even if that is first learning how to approach your journey. Your foot will not move to take that first step until you decide you want to take that step. That will lead you into doing more and trying more. Have confidence in yourself and take steps. But you must have made the decision to succeed to even begin to try to succeed. The decision is the greatest power that man possesses. If you want to be more, do more, or have more, simply decide to experience it first, and you will be lead to success. It is not a promise of right now, but it is a promise.

3. Continuous Learning
Do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT ever stop learning, EVER.
The only thing that keeps a person from being ever successful is lack of knowledge. If you want to argue that then I pose this question. If you knew how to make a million dollars right now this very moment. Would you? Even if you lie and say no, the answer is YES! You see we as humans suffer from being complacent because we think someone ELSE has the inside track, the secret formula, etc. This is partly true, but mostly the information or track that they have access to is NOT secret. It?s just in a damn BOOK! Ha! We often forget that just about all knowledge of from all time as been recorded in some form in a book. Those books are available to you. We have to make a conscious decision to pick up a book on a subject and pour through it until have a good idea of what to expect. Even better, we should pick up 10-15+ books on the subject and gain as much perspective on it as possible. This is where power lives. We desire ever more in our lives but we often do not desire the very thing that can grant us our ever valid desires. You can learn how to do just about anything with the proper set of books. This has been true since the book was invented. Desire for success comes from the desire to learn about the success we are attempting. Don?t even try anything without learning about it first. It will benefit you greatly, and embarrass you a lot less! So continue to learn and continue to remember to learn. Everything is learn-able.

I am a strong believer in success coming from proper information and execution. Many people struggle with the idea of success for the lack of ONE thing. The very thing that keeps so many people from succeeding is incredibly simple and when I tell you what it is, you will find it simple to the point of almost being silly. However, I find that the most profound things in life are actually the most simple things that we an adhere to and DO.

OK here it is: Most people are not successful simply because they have not had an example of success. They simple do not know what success looks like.

Isn?t that interesting? I think its very interesting.

So I am going to list and discuss 3 of the major components for people who have not had an example of success. These are things that successful people do, if they are conscious of it or not. Every success you see is based in these 3 things. It doesn?t matter WHAT success you are looking for, they all live in these principles. Don?t worry, they are also very simple.

1. Unequivocal Belief In Yourself
This is certainly easier said than done, but it is certainly extremely important in you journey for success of any type. No master piano player learns how to play the piano without believing they will eventually learn how fully master playing the piano. Records are broken almost every day because the record breaker believes and sees the record as immaterial, nothing to focus on. But they focus on themselves and breaking the record, and they do. It isn?t a new concept but it is one that we forget. You MUST learn how to believe in yourself in being able accomplish ANYTHING, no matter how hard it may seem, or how hard it may ACTUALLY be. We are all greater than our circumstances, but we have to be constantly reminded of it. So here is your reminder, Believe in yourself with all the power you can muster, and trust me, that is a lot!

2. Conscious decision to succeed
Who knows the famous quote "A Journey of 1000 miles starts with one step"? Yes I know it is a bit cliche at this point, but the principle that it supports is universal and unending and also un-clicheable, yes I just made up and word and yes you can use it! But the point is this: Even before you MAKE that first step on your new journey, you have to do something in a secret place that no one else knows of and has no map to. That is your mind. You must in YOUR mind, decide to take the first step into whatever it is you want to accomplish, even if that is first learning how to approach your journey. Your foot will not move to take that first step until you decide you want to take that step. That will lead you into doing more and trying more. Have confidence in yourself and take steps. But you must have made the decision to succeed to even begin to try to succeed. The decision is the greatest power that man possesses. If you want to be more, do more, or have more, simply decide to experience it first, and you will be lead to success. It is not a promise of right now, but it is a promise.

3. Continuous Learning
Do NOT, I repeat, DO NOT ever stop learning, EVER.
The only thing that keeps a person from being ever successful is lack of knowledge. If you want to argue that then I pose this question. If you knew how to make a million dollars right now this very moment. Would you? Even if you lie and say no, the answer is YES! You see we as humans suffer from being complacent because we think someone ELSE has the inside track, the secret formula, etc. This is partly true, but mostly the information or track that they have access to is NOT secret. It?s just in a damn BOOK! Ha! We often forget that just about all knowledge of from all time as been recorded in some form in a book. Those books are available to you. We have to make a conscious decision to pick up a book on a subject and pour through it until have a good idea of what to expect. Even better, we should pick up 10-15+ books on the subject and gain as much perspective on it as possible. This is where power lives. We desire ever more in our lives but we often do not desire the very thing that can grant us our ever valid desires. You can learn how to do just about anything with the proper set of books. This has been true since the book was invented. Desire for success comes from the desire to learn about the success we are attempting. Don?t even try anything without learning about it first. It will benefit you greatly, and embarrass you a lot less! So continue to learn and continue to remember to learn. Everything is learn-able.

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This Place Beyond The Pines Weekend, April 18th-21st.

What is it about this weekend? The number of events competing for an audience is staggering. This has resulted in a volley of ads and Facebook carpet-bombing rarely seen. No shortage of things to do and/or choose from, so pace yourself, have fun, and if you're going to drink, bring a friend who doesn't for the drive home. Start early if you're going to be hopping from place to place, and remember to support those who are part of the community.

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8th Anniversary Sunscreen Film Festival in St. Pete.April 18-21

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  • Over 85 films, 10 workshops (acting, producing, screenwriting, how to get your film made, etc.), and 3 huge parties. Great films you can't see anywhere else starring; Micheal Biehn, Seth Green, Cary Elwes, Eva Mendes, Matthew Ziff, Caitlin Keats and more!

    Celebrity guests!
    Awesome Parties!
    Exclusive screenings!
    The best selection of Spanish Language films in Florida (sponsored by the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences (the Oscars))
    Great short films!
    And filmmakers from all over the world attending!

    Don't miss out, get your tickets or VIP pass now!

    Festival Venue: Muvico 20 Theaters and IMAX, 151 2nd Ave. North St. Petersburg, FL 33701
    18th Opening Night Party: 9PM NOVA 535, 535 Dr. MLK Street North, St. Petersburg, FL 33701
    19th Friday Night Block Party: 600 Central Ave. 6-9PM, 9PM-1AM Blue Lucy Art gallery, 653 Central Ave. St. Petersburg, FL 33701
    20th Saturday Awards Ceremony and Party: 9PM Studio 620, 620 1st Ave. South St. Petersburg, FL 33701

    Guests this year:
    • Caitlin Keats (Kill Bill Volume 2 & The Mentalist)
    • Jennifer Blanc-Biehn (The Victim & Treachery)
    • Travis Romero (co-creator of White Collar and Director of Treachery)
    • Matthew Ziff (Actor, Treachery (also an Olympic Gold Medalist)
    • Alexa Vega (Actress, Spy Kids, Machete 2)
    • Jason Matthew Smith (Actor, Sons of Anarchy, Star Trek,)
    • Veronica Diaz Milagros (Actress, Sabado Gigante)
    • Isa Totah (Actor, Director)
    • Martin Kove (Actor, Karate Kid, Rambo 2)
    • Arleen Lopez (Marketing for Pantelion Films a division of Lionsgate)
    • Rik Swartzwelder (Director, Old Fashioned)
    • Jerry Eetan (writer, Identity Thief, also a local guy)
    • Josh Adler (Literary Mgr. NWE, LA)
    • Ricky Roxburgh (writer, Saving Santa)
    • Mart Poole (CEO Fairway Film Distribution & acquisitions)
     

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600 Block Party On April 19th

Photo: Save the date: Friday, April 19th 6-11PM - 600 Block Buster! on The 600 Block of St. PetersburgJust in case you've been held hostage for the past few weeks, or there's anyone left who hasn't heard about this, signed up to go, on paper and on FB... The 600 block is having a mammoth blow-out party on Friday, April 19th on the 600 block of Central Avenue.From 6-11 PM.

It is kindly sponsored by Chart 411 [Link].

I will be there.

--- Luis





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The http://www.sunscreenfilmfestival.com/ is a worldwide acclaimed film festival for the independent film genre. If you are a new artist and would like to make a name for yourself, or learn from those who have made impressive and spectacular names for themselves in the entertainment industry, join us for our annual OPENING NIGHT PARTY here at NOVA 535. Join Hollywood Stars, dancing, deal making, learning and laughing, all here at the world-class NOVA 535 Event Space.
========================================
$25 includes valet apps entertainment & more! http://goo.gl/IXiij
============ ENTERTAINMENT ================
** DJ SUGAR BEAR
** PHOTOBOOTH by GET THE PICTURE


535 Dr. M. L. King Jr Street North, Saint Petersburg
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 A Creative Loafing 25th Anniversary Event...

As sensual beings, we are impacted by the beauty or mediocrity of our surroundings. Does design matter? Join us at Studio 620 on Friday evening, April 19 at 6-7pm, for a lively roundtable discussion with award-winning architects, Taryn Sabia, Yann Weymouth, Albert Alfonso and James Moore. From the Dali Museum's surreal form to the elegant simplicity of TIA's recent terminals to the innovative community advocacy of the Urban Charrette, these talented folks have created great design in Tampa Bay. Enjoy a provocative exchange moderated by Linda Saul-Sena, CL columnist writing about the urban landscape.

Cost $5/ cash bar to inspire your questions! Megan Voeller, the CL Art Critic, will follow with a tour of the Warehouse District's Galleries, then a Street Party!

For a full schedule of the week's events and to purchase tickets, visit www.cltampa.com/birthday.


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The Venture Compound and Hunter Payne Present:
THE MOST POSITIVE NIGHT IN THE WORLD!!!!!
Friday April 19th, 8pm, The Venture Compound
FREE ADMISSION!
Isn’t the Internet GREAT?!  Yes it is.  And we’re trying to see just how great it’s capable of being.  Gifted local cartoonist and idea man Hunter Payne has marshaled a small army of Tampa Bay Tweens and Millenials to TWEET LIKE MAD at idols of positivity like QUEEN LATIFAH, weirdo rapper Lil’ B, and Comedian/motivator Kyle Cease, to get them to share their stories of internet greatness with us on this NIGHT OF GREATNESS. 
Whether or not we successfully pull these big names, we’re going to spend the evening sharing great stories about what the internet has done for us!  There will also be some great music from locals Young Egypt and SNCKPCK.  We’re not EXACTLY sure what’s going to happen, but we DO know there will be INFINITE POPCORN, and that with Hunter Payne involved, you can expect JOYFUL MADNESS.
Huntermadeit.com, Theventurcompound.com
The Venture Compound, Warehouse Arts District, 2621 Fairfield Avenue South, St. PETE
Media Contact – David Z. Morris, (813) 394-6568
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 Pop-Up Art Show with Jennifer Kosharek and BASK @ the ex-Collective space.

There will be an art show Friday Night, April 19th, at the old Collective space at 601 Central Ave. St. Pete.  Friday, April 19th in conjunction with the block party. Free.
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Shift: USF's BFA Exhibit -

The University of South Florida's CoTA Senior Thesis Exhibition "SHIFT" will be holding its opening reception on Friday, April 19, from 6pm until 9pm. Food and drink is provided and admission is FREE! Come see the fantastic works and meet the finest 23 of Tampa Bay's emerging artists while enjoying a night on the town. Remember: parking is local, so come prepared. Also, be sure to like our page so you can receive updates and further information about works and details.

655 N. Franklin Street, Tampa, Florida 33602
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Clay Center Opening - 
 
The Clay Center of St. Petersburg is opening THIS FRIDAY, 4/19!
The Kimi and Chuck Experience will be there from 8-10pm that evening to play live music for you, and will be there til the night finishes up. Not sure when that'll be, though. Things happen when you cram a bunch of artists under one roof...

Anywho, the Clay Center also offers beginner clay spinning classes at $125 for 6 weeks, along with other clay courses that may tickle your fancy. Check out their website for more information (http://www.claycenterofstpetersburg.org/), and don't forget to stop by and see us this Friday! Thank you for your support as always! We look forward to seeing your guys! Help us keep the local art scene alive!

P.S. Congratulations to Nancy and everyone at the Clay Center of St. Petersburg for your success!
 
 
 400 23rd Street South

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 Creative Loafing WAD Block Party @ U562, Dan's Place & Zen Glass -
 
MUSIC: Warehouse Arts District Block Party
High-quality acts from the Bay area and beyond, kicking off at 8 p.m. at three venues — Zen Glass, Dan’s Place (formerly Inside the Gates) and U562 -- all within walking distance of each other. Hosted by CL Music Editor Leilani Polk & musician Mark Etherington. Performers include: Luxury Mane (the Billy-Summer led band formerly known as The Stone Eagles), RedFeather, Jensen Serf Company, The Mother Machine, Touch the Sky, Auto!Automatic!!, Jun, Hunter: Gatherer, Early Forms, Alexander & the Grapes, The Happiness Machine, Reina Collins and Sean Hartley, The Send Offs, Brazos the Rat, Empire Cinema, The Other Ryan Willis, Serotonic, Bard and Mustache.

MUSIC VENUES:
Zen Glass Studio, U562, Dan's Place

TICKET INFO:
Music Pass: $13.50
All-Night-Long Pass (includes trolley tour, bands and “Straw into Gold” architecture panel): $25 
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Mainsail Art Festival - This huge outdoor show is one of the area's best. Thirty-seven years, this Saint Pete tradition is upon us once again. 250 Artists in a beautiful setting. Vinoy Park, on Bayshore Drive and Seventh Ave NE. Free admission. 9AM - 6 PM Saturday, and 10AM-5PM on Sunday April 19 -- 20th. 
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Mentiri: Prints by Doug McClure @ Bleu Acier -

Steve McClure :  MENTIRI

Recent Work on Paper
 

Vernissage: Friday, April 19, 2013, 5-8 PM

Exhibition: April 20 - May 18, 2013

 
 
I was in Montreal for the first time in 1991, and I discovered a church known as the Sailor's Church: Notre Dame de Bon Secours. I was in front of the subject of Steve McClure's work. I didn't know Steve at this time, but the subject of the work is not the artist; the subject is in front of him, or behind him, or above him; the subject belongs to his memory, it belongs to the collective memory where it can be shared by everyone; the subject is the two apples on a plate in front of Paul Cezanne.

Montreal is a city of fishermen from a time when boats were more useful and more dangerous than carriages. Montreal of the 18th century was a city of fishermen's widows, lost boats, stories of ship wrecks; the culture of disappearance.

That church was the home of all those lost hopes, all those tears, and of all that fear in front of a sea who eats its men and their boats. Hundreds of beautiful small ship models were suspended from the ceiling of this church; like leaves on the branches of a tree, with their names inscribed on the side, like little baby boats in a maternity ward.

I was struck by that vision that reappears now, in front of the work of Steve McClure, exhibited in the space of Bleu Acier in Tampa. MENTIRI, is, as you know, the infinitive of the Latin to lie, and because I am French, I will share with you a phrase of the great French writer, Nicolas Boileau (1636-1711), who said: The art of lying in a loud voice, while telling the truth in a whisper.

With some drops of ink and a glass of water, Ships in a Box of Cardboard are the ultimate vision of our common tragedies. Homes, ghosts, ships, and hopes appear and disappear suddenly under the brush and the talent of Steve McClure. His play within the appearance and disappearance of the form-subject has deep roots in his artistic technique.  The way we transform each aspect of materiality, gives the artist the keys to the sense of his personal language. Nothing is less stable than water and ink together; it is a strange love affair, an event in perpetual progress to which we are invited.

The same with the Stage of the Opera House, an empty stage of course, with empty seats as well; the only reality of that kind of space is in its architecture. The presence of a strong and rich architecture underlines the fragility of the fiction, of the dream, of the hope, and of the belief, just as in a church. Aristotle has taught Steve McClure in a very distant past that nature abhors a vacuum and Steve uses this vacuum as a lie to create because to lie is to imagine.

Apologize, Pull Out Your Eyes, is the title of one of the series of work exhibited at Bleu Acier. I like the work of Steve because he leaves me the place to inscribe my own story, and that is the unique target of an authentic work of art.

Dominique Labauvie
Tampa, April 7 2013



Steve McClure lives and works in Brooklyn NY.  He is a graduate of the University of South Florida in Tampa. Steve received a Visual Arts fellowship from the Fine Arts Work Center in Provincetown, and an Editions Residency from the Lower East Side Print Shop in NYC. He has exhibited nationally in the U.S. and his work is part of private and public collections, among which are The Museum of Fine Arts in St. Petersburg and the Weatherspoon Museum of Art, Greensboro, N.C



Bleu Acier is a Fine Art Print Publisher with an atelier that functions as a collaborative and contract studio owned and operated by Erika Greenberg-Schneider, and the show room exhibits works in all disciplines with a concentration in works on paper and prints by mid-career and established artists from the US and Europe, with an emphasis on Contemporary French Artists. Bleu Acier continues its commitment to bring International and National mid career and established artists to Tampa.


Gallery Hours during exhibition:
Saturdays: 11-5 PM
Thursdays, Fridays and Sundays: by appointment.
 
 

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What is it about this weekend? The number of events competing for an audience is staggering. This has resulted in a volley of ads and Facebook carpet-bombing rarely seen. No shortage of things to do and/or choose from, so pace yourself, have fun, and if you're going to drink, bring a friend who doesn't for the drive home. Start early if you're going to be hopping from place to place, and remember to support those who are part of the community.

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8th Anniversary Sunscreen Film Festival in St. Pete.April 18-21

  • (sunscreen-filmfestival.ticketleap.com)
  • Over 85 films, 10 workshops (acting, producing, screenwriting, how to get your film made, etc.), and 3 huge parties. Great films you can't see anywhere else starring; Micheal Biehn, Seth Green, Cary Elwes, Eva Mendes, Matthew Ziff, Caitlin Keats and more!

    Celebrity guests!
    Awesome Parties!
    Exclusive screenings!
    The best selection of Spanish Language films in Florida (sponsored by the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences (the Oscars))
    Great short films!
    And filmmakers from all over the world attending!

    Don't miss out, get your tickets or VIP pass now!

    Festival Venue: Muvico 20 Theaters and IMAX, 151 2nd Ave. North St. Petersburg, FL 33701
    18th Opening Night Party: 9PM NOVA 535, 535 Dr. MLK Street North, St. Petersburg, FL 33701
    19th Friday Night Block Party: 600 Central Ave. 6-9PM, 9PM-1AM Blue Lucy Art gallery, 653 Central Ave. St. Petersburg, FL 33701
    20th Saturday Awards Ceremony and Party: 9PM Studio 620, 620 1st Ave. South St. Petersburg, FL 33701

    Guests this year:
    • Caitlin Keats (Kill Bill Volume 2 & The Mentalist)
    • Jennifer Blanc-Biehn (The Victim & Treachery)
    • Travis Romero (co-creator of White Collar and Director of Treachery)
    • Matthew Ziff (Actor, Treachery (also an Olympic Gold Medalist)
    • Alexa Vega (Actress, Spy Kids, Machete 2)
    • Jason Matthew Smith (Actor, Sons of Anarchy, Star Trek,)
    • Veronica Diaz Milagros (Actress, Sabado Gigante)
    • Isa Totah (Actor, Director)
    • Martin Kove (Actor, Karate Kid, Rambo 2)
    • Arleen Lopez (Marketing for Pantelion Films a division of Lionsgate)
    • Rik Swartzwelder (Director, Old Fashioned)
    • Jerry Eetan (writer, Identity Thief, also a local guy)
    • Josh Adler (Literary Mgr. NWE, LA)
    • Ricky Roxburgh (writer, Saving Santa)
    • Mart Poole (CEO Fairway Film Distribution & acquisitions)
     

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600 Block Party On April 19th

Photo: Save the date: Friday, April 19th 6-11PM - 600 Block Buster! on The 600 Block of St. PetersburgJust in case you've been held hostage for the past few weeks, or there's anyone left who hasn't heard about this, signed up to go, on paper and on FB... The 600 block is having a mammoth blow-out party on Friday, April 19th on the 600 block of Central Avenue.From 6-11 PM.

It is kindly sponsored by Chart 411 [Link].

I will be there.

--- Luis





__________________________________________________________________________




 


The http://www.sunscreenfilmfestival.com/ is a worldwide acclaimed film festival for the independent film genre. If you are a new artist and would like to make a name for yourself, or learn from those who have made impressive and spectacular names for themselves in the entertainment industry, join us for our annual OPENING NIGHT PARTY here at NOVA 535. Join Hollywood Stars, dancing, deal making, learning and laughing, all here at the world-class NOVA 535 Event Space.
========================================
$25 includes valet apps entertainment & more! http://goo.gl/IXiij
============ ENTERTAINMENT ================
** DJ SUGAR BEAR
** PHOTOBOOTH by GET THE PICTURE


535 Dr. M. L. King Jr Street North, Saint Petersburg
_________________________________________________________________________

 


 A Creative Loafing 25th Anniversary Event...

As sensual beings, we are impacted by the beauty or mediocrity of our surroundings. Does design matter? Join us at Studio 620 on Friday evening, April 19 at 6-7pm, for a lively roundtable discussion with award-winning architects, Taryn Sabia, Yann Weymouth, Albert Alfonso and James Moore. From the Dali Museum's surreal form to the elegant simplicity of TIA's recent terminals to the innovative community advocacy of the Urban Charrette, these talented folks have created great design in Tampa Bay. Enjoy a provocative exchange moderated by Linda Saul-Sena, CL columnist writing about the urban landscape.

Cost $5/ cash bar to inspire your questions! Megan Voeller, the CL Art Critic, will follow with a tour of the Warehouse District's Galleries, then a Street Party!

For a full schedule of the week's events and to purchase tickets, visit www.cltampa.com/birthday.


_________________________________________________________________


The Venture Compound and Hunter Payne Present:
THE MOST POSITIVE NIGHT IN THE WORLD!!!!!
Friday April 19th, 8pm, The Venture Compound
FREE ADMISSION!
Isn’t the Internet GREAT?!  Yes it is.  And we’re trying to see just how great it’s capable of being.  Gifted local cartoonist and idea man Hunter Payne has marshaled a small army of Tampa Bay Tweens and Millenials to TWEET LIKE MAD at idols of positivity like QUEEN LATIFAH, weirdo rapper Lil’ B, and Comedian/motivator Kyle Cease, to get them to share their stories of internet greatness with us on this NIGHT OF GREATNESS. 
Whether or not we successfully pull these big names, we’re going to spend the evening sharing great stories about what the internet has done for us!  There will also be some great music from locals Young Egypt and SNCKPCK.  We’re not EXACTLY sure what’s going to happen, but we DO know there will be INFINITE POPCORN, and that with Hunter Payne involved, you can expect JOYFUL MADNESS.
Huntermadeit.com, Theventurcompound.com
The Venture Compound, Warehouse Arts District, 2621 Fairfield Avenue South, St. PETE
Media Contact – David Z. Morris, (813) 394-6568
_________________________________________________________________

 
 Pop-Up Art Show with Jennifer Kosharek and BASK @ the ex-Collective space.

There will be an art show Friday Night, April 19th, at the old Collective space at 601 Central Ave. St. Pete.  Friday, April 19th in conjunction with the block party. Free.
_______________________________________________________________________________


Shift: USF's BFA Exhibit -

The University of South Florida's CoTA Senior Thesis Exhibition "SHIFT" will be holding its opening reception on Friday, April 19, from 6pm until 9pm. Food and drink is provided and admission is FREE! Come see the fantastic works and meet the finest 23 of Tampa Bay's emerging artists while enjoying a night on the town. Remember: parking is local, so come prepared. Also, be sure to like our page so you can receive updates and further information about works and details.

655 N. Franklin Street, Tampa, Florida 33602
________________________________________________________________________
 
Clay Center Opening - 
 
The Clay Center of St. Petersburg is opening THIS FRIDAY, 4/19!
The Kimi and Chuck Experience will be there from 8-10pm that evening to play live music for you, and will be there til the night finishes up. Not sure when that'll be, though. Things happen when you cram a bunch of artists under one roof...

Anywho, the Clay Center also offers beginner clay spinning classes at $125 for 6 weeks, along with other clay courses that may tickle your fancy. Check out their website for more information (http://www.claycenterofstpetersburg.org/), and don't forget to stop by and see us this Friday! Thank you for your support as always! We look forward to seeing your guys! Help us keep the local art scene alive!

P.S. Congratulations to Nancy and everyone at the Clay Center of St. Petersburg for your success!
 
 
 400 23rd Street South

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 Creative Loafing WAD Block Party @ U562, Dan's Place & Zen Glass -
 
MUSIC: Warehouse Arts District Block Party
High-quality acts from the Bay area and beyond, kicking off at 8 p.m. at three venues — Zen Glass, Dan’s Place (formerly Inside the Gates) and U562 -- all within walking distance of each other. Hosted by CL Music Editor Leilani Polk & musician Mark Etherington. Performers include: Luxury Mane (the Billy-Summer led band formerly known as The Stone Eagles), RedFeather, Jensen Serf Company, The Mother Machine, Touch the Sky, Auto!Automatic!!, Jun, Hunter: Gatherer, Early Forms, Alexander & the Grapes, The Happiness Machine, Reina Collins and Sean Hartley, The Send Offs, Brazos the Rat, Empire Cinema, The Other Ryan Willis, Serotonic, Bard and Mustache.

MUSIC VENUES:
Zen Glass Studio, U562, Dan's Place

TICKET INFO:
Music Pass: $13.50
All-Night-Long Pass (includes trolley tour, bands and “Straw into Gold” architecture panel): $25 
 ______________________________________________________________________________

Mainsail Art Festival - This huge outdoor show is one of the area's best. Thirty-seven years, this Saint Pete tradition is upon us once again. 250 Artists in a beautiful setting. Vinoy Park, on Bayshore Drive and Seventh Ave NE. Free admission. 9AM - 6 PM Saturday, and 10AM-5PM on Sunday April 19 -- 20th. 
__________________________________________________________________________________

Mentiri: Prints by Doug McClure @ Bleu Acier -

Steve McClure :  MENTIRI

Recent Work on Paper
 

Vernissage: Friday, April 19, 2013, 5-8 PM

Exhibition: April 20 - May 18, 2013

 
 
I was in Montreal for the first time in 1991, and I discovered a church known as the Sailor's Church: Notre Dame de Bon Secours. I was in front of the subject of Steve McClure's work. I didn't know Steve at this time, but the subject of the work is not the artist; the subject is in front of him, or behind him, or above him; the subject belongs to his memory, it belongs to the collective memory where it can be shared by everyone; the subject is the two apples on a plate in front of Paul Cezanne.

Montreal is a city of fishermen from a time when boats were more useful and more dangerous than carriages. Montreal of the 18th century was a city of fishermen's widows, lost boats, stories of ship wrecks; the culture of disappearance.

That church was the home of all those lost hopes, all those tears, and of all that fear in front of a sea who eats its men and their boats. Hundreds of beautiful small ship models were suspended from the ceiling of this church; like leaves on the branches of a tree, with their names inscribed on the side, like little baby boats in a maternity ward.

I was struck by that vision that reappears now, in front of the work of Steve McClure, exhibited in the space of Bleu Acier in Tampa. MENTIRI, is, as you know, the infinitive of the Latin to lie, and because I am French, I will share with you a phrase of the great French writer, Nicolas Boileau (1636-1711), who said: The art of lying in a loud voice, while telling the truth in a whisper.

With some drops of ink and a glass of water, Ships in a Box of Cardboard are the ultimate vision of our common tragedies. Homes, ghosts, ships, and hopes appear and disappear suddenly under the brush and the talent of Steve McClure. His play within the appearance and disappearance of the form-subject has deep roots in his artistic technique.  The way we transform each aspect of materiality, gives the artist the keys to the sense of his personal language. Nothing is less stable than water and ink together; it is a strange love affair, an event in perpetual progress to which we are invited.

The same with the Stage of the Opera House, an empty stage of course, with empty seats as well; the only reality of that kind of space is in its architecture. The presence of a strong and rich architecture underlines the fragility of the fiction, of the dream, of the hope, and of the belief, just as in a church. Aristotle has taught Steve McClure in a very distant past that nature abhors a vacuum and Steve uses this vacuum as a lie to create because to lie is to imagine.

Apologize, Pull Out Your Eyes, is the title of one of the series of work exhibited at Bleu Acier. I like the work of Steve because he leaves me the place to inscribe my own story, and that is the unique target of an authentic work of art.

Dominique Labauvie
Tampa, April 7 2013



Steve McClure lives and works in Brooklyn NY.  He is a graduate of the University of South Florida in Tampa. Steve received a Visual Arts fellowship from the Fine Arts Work Center in Provincetown, and an Editions Residency from the Lower East Side Print Shop in NYC. He has exhibited nationally in the U.S. and his work is part of private and public collections, among which are The Museum of Fine Arts in St. Petersburg and the Weatherspoon Museum of Art, Greensboro, N.C



Bleu Acier is a Fine Art Print Publisher with an atelier that functions as a collaborative and contract studio owned and operated by Erika Greenberg-Schneider, and the show room exhibits works in all disciplines with a concentration in works on paper and prints by mid-career and established artists from the US and Europe, with an emphasis on Contemporary French Artists. Bleu Acier continues its commitment to bring International and National mid career and established artists to Tampa.


Gallery Hours during exhibition:
Saturdays: 11-5 PM
Thursdays, Fridays and Sundays: by appointment.
 
 

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